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Offline Eastern Mind

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Intercession of friends and family members?
« on: January 13, 2013, 10:14:19 AM »
Say you have a friend or family member that has been dead for a while; and let's say they weren't Orthodox Christians, but rather Catholic or Protestant; would it be okay to ask for their intercession, or instead, should I rather pray for them?

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Re: Intercession of friends and family members?
« Reply #1 on: January 16, 2013, 10:54:45 PM »
Say you have a friend or family member that has been dead for a while; and let's say they weren't Orthodox Christians, but rather Catholic or Protestant; would it be okay to ask for their intercession, or instead, should I rather pray for them?

Thanks :)

The only way I could answer this is with another question...

With so many others to ask to pray for you.... why would you do that?

Also, they don't have to be dead to ask for intercession.  You can ask anybody to pray for you.
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Re: Intercession of friends and family members?
« Reply #2 on: January 16, 2013, 11:05:04 PM »
Say you have a friend or family member that has been dead for a while; and let's say they weren't Orthodox Christians, but rather Catholic or Protestant; would it be okay to ask for their intercession, or instead, should I rather pray for them?

Thanks :)

The only way I could answer this is with another question...

With so many others to ask to pray for you.... why would you do that?

Also, they don't have to be dead to ask for intercession.  You can ask anybody to pray for you.

I appreciate your comments, but I was looking for an Orthodox response.
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Re: Intercession of friends and family members?
« Reply #3 on: January 16, 2013, 11:58:35 PM »

Why would you ask this reposed non-Orthodox to intercede for you?

I've never thought of asking my deceased family members to intercede.  After all, do we know where they are, that they are able to intercede?  Why does everyone assume that when someone is dead, they must be in heaven, in a better place?

We don't know that.

We pray that God forgive them their earthly sins, and grant them eternal rest with His saints...

Even saints have been known to ask those who pray to them, to in turn pray for that saint's reposed parents or loved ones.  Therefore, even the saints ask those who are still living to pray for their departed family members.  That always amazes me.

Rather than ask your non-Orthodox departed family/friend....talk straight to God, or if you feel you can't...than ask a known Saint for help.

I'm Orthodox, and that's just my opinion....not necessarily an "Orthodox" opinion....just a personal one.
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Re: Intercession of friends and family members?
« Reply #4 on: January 17, 2013, 07:04:18 PM »

Why would you ask this reposed non-Orthodox to intercede for you?

I've never thought of asking my deceased family members to intercede.  After all, do we know where they are, that they are able to intercede?  Why does everyone assume that when someone is dead, they must be in heaven, in a better place?

We don't know that.

We pray that God forgive them their earthly sins, and grant them eternal rest with His saints...

Even saints have been known to ask those who pray to them, to in turn pray for that saint's reposed parents or loved ones.  Therefore, even the saints ask those who are still living to pray for their departed family members.  That always amazes me.

Rather than ask your non-Orthodox departed family/friend....talk straight to God, or if you feel you can't...than ask a known Saint for help.

I'm Orthodox, and that's just my opinion....not necessarily an "Orthodox" opinion....just a personal one.


I understand what you mean. I guess I just miss my friend, and asking for her to pray for me would help me. Or so I felt. Maybe, since she was not Orthodox, it would be best to pray for her instead? Maybe I will start doing that. I think I'll ask my priest about this too.

I never knew that about saints who ask us to pray for their family members. That's really great.
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Re: Intercession of friends and family members?
« Reply #5 on: January 17, 2013, 09:07:02 PM »
Yes, pray for her. And speak with your priest.
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Re: Intercession of friends and family members?
« Reply #6 on: January 17, 2013, 09:31:01 PM »
Yes, pray for her. And speak with your priest.

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Re: Intercession of friends and family members?
« Reply #7 on: January 17, 2013, 11:00:50 PM »
Last night I stayed in a hotel room where John Wayne once stayed (according to the owners). They tried to claim it was haunted, but knowing "The Duke" had a deathbed conversion,  I prayed for his soul and then asked him to guard my room while I slept.

Not one other ghost bothered me. Thanks, Duke! :D
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