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« on: January 07, 2013, 09:36:02 PM »
Because of my wavering faith, I haven't been to confession with a Catholic priest since Lent last year.  I'd love to go to confession soon, I really need spiritual guidance.  I asked Father yesterday but he said I have to wait until after I am chrismated.  Can there be some sort of non-Sacramental confession?  Like I tell him my sins and he gives me spiritual guidance anyway?
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« Reply #1 on: January 07, 2013, 09:44:49 PM »
Quote from: choy on January 07, 2013, 09:36:02 PM
Because of my wavering faith, I haven't been to confession with a Catholic priest since Lent last year.  I'd love to go to confession soon, I really need spiritual guidance.  I asked Father yesterday but he said I have to wait until after I am chrismated.  Can there be some sort of non-Sacramental confession?  Like I tell him my sins and he gives me spiritual guidance anyway?
Why can't you just ask him for advice?
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« Reply #2 on: January 07, 2013, 09:46:57 PM »
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Quote from: choy on January 07, 2013, 09:36:02 PM
Because of my wavering faith, I haven't been to confession with a Catholic priest since Lent last year.  I'd love to go to confession soon, I really need spiritual guidance.  I asked Father yesterday but he said I have to wait until after I am chrismated.  Can there be some sort of non-Sacramental confession?  Like I tell him my sins and he gives me spiritual guidance anyway?
Why can't you just ask him for advice?

I will.  But if people can share their experiences maybe I can phrase what I am asking for better so he will understand.  Because when I said confession he said the Sacraments will have to wait.
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« Reply #3 on: January 07, 2013, 09:47:21 PM »
I think if you asked him for spiritual guidance, instead of confession, he would respond favorably. At least I would hope.
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« Reply #4 on: January 07, 2013, 09:49:44 PM »
Quote from: choy on January 07, 2013, 09:46:57 PM
Quote from: Agabus on January 07, 2013, 09:44:49 PM
Quote from: choy on January 07, 2013, 09:36:02 PM
Because of my wavering faith, I haven't been to confession with a Catholic priest since Lent last year.  I'd love to go to confession soon, I really need spiritual guidance.  I asked Father yesterday but he said I have to wait until after I am chrismated.  Can there be some sort of non-Sacramental confession?  Like I tell him my sins and he gives me spiritual guidance anyway?
Why can't you just ask him for advice?

I will.  But if people can share their experiences maybe I can phrase what I am asking for better so he will understand.  Because when I said confession he said the Sacraments will have to wait.

Just tell him you need to get things off your chest, so to speak. That you need help sorting things out. I would be shocked if he would not respond favorably to this. Ask him to meet you for coffee or something. Have him to your home for a house blessing. Whatever works. God be with you!
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« Reply #5 on: January 07, 2013, 09:59:43 PM »
Quote from: choy on January 07, 2013, 09:46:57 PM
I will.  But if people can share their experiences maybe I can phrase what I am asking for better so he will understand. 
I gave my first confession a few days before my baptism. Those who were received by Chrismation confessed before then and received absolution through the Chrismation.

I would just talk to your priest about whatever it is you are troubled by.
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« Reply #6 on: January 07, 2013, 10:23:09 PM »
Quote from: NicholasMyra on January 07, 2013, 09:59:43 PM
I gave my first confession a few days before my baptism.
My experience was like this.

It wasn't exactly a full confession - the absolution part wasn't performed as (so I was told) this took place during the baptism/chrismation.
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« Reply #7 on: January 07, 2013, 11:33:45 PM »
Quote from: choy on January 07, 2013, 09:36:02 PM
I really need spiritual guidance.

Why don't you ask for guidance from your priest outside of confession?
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« Reply #8 on: January 07, 2013, 11:41:46 PM »
I'd just echo what others have said: I'd imagine saying to him that you'd just like to share some issues/problems you're having and get advice would work. You could also perhaps mention that it would help because you'd feel like there's some accountability there if you talked.
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« Reply #9 on: January 08, 2013, 10:02:21 PM »
Quote from: choy on January 07, 2013, 09:36:02 PM
Because of my wavering faith, I haven't been to confession with a Catholic priest since Lent last year.  I'd love to go to confession soon, I really need spiritual guidance.  I asked Father yesterday but he said I have to wait until after I am chrismated.  Can there be some sort of non-Sacramental confession?  Like I tell him my sins and he gives me spiritual guidance anyway?

I was told that I have to wait too. A Greek orthodox priest in UK that have helped me online with some study-material adviced me to use
psalm 50 in the morning and psalm 51 in the evening + telling God excactly every day how I feel about different things. Use those psalms
and tell the Lord how much you love Him, that is my advice.

And hey: welcome as a catechumen! Will pray for you.
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