It's the public actions that count.
So, if I kiss my priest's hand every time I see him in public. I am a good christian, even if I wished him ill in my heart for instance?
From what we could see of you, yes. we coudl not know what is within your heart, only how you act and carry yourself
My behaviour, or anyone's behaviour for that matter, is not always an expression of our true self. And our true self in this world full of judgement, doesn't always have an expression. We only reveal to others as much as they can handle. Sometimes less. But never more.
I don't agree. If you watch someone long enough, the inner self comes out. Maybe not in fine detail, but usually enough to make some judgements. And yes, I do believe that we are allowed to make some judgements, as long as they do not pertain to salvation. If I just watched you cheat someone out of something, I would be perfectly right in deciding that I am not going to trust you for now. I would cross the line if, in my heart, I had determined that you are a thief and are going to hell.