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Offline Kerdy

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« on: December 03, 2012, 09:24:20 PM »
Quit my job and move into a different department/division?  I have been in my current position (job) since 2008, but for almost the last three years, all I do is work, battle against incompetence/stupidity from those who should know more than I know, constant change in policy with no definitive standard and many other things.  The worst is, I am at the point I barely know my family.  I turned in a report on 09 November and on 29 November my supervisors decided they wanted revisions done immediately rather than within the few days after they received it, keeping me from attending a "surprise" birthday party my children had set up.  I could go on for days, but the bottom line is I have lost the joy I once had in my work and I am unable to do anything with my family, ever.  I went out, finally, to look for a Christmas gift for my wife.  By the time I got home, I had 14 missed calls and three text messages.  It's nuts and now they lost an important document from a report and are asking me where it is. 

I was actually happy running around trying pick out something for my wife, got home, hung out with my kids and then my wife showed me my phone.  I've been disenchanted with my work for some time, but now I am getting to the point I almost dont care about what I do, which is not good.  The only solution I can find is to move to a different area or retire early and get a new job.

What I do know, is I'm tired of having no personal life and my job taking priority over my family.  I'm glad I have a job, but it simple is costing me too much.  Family, I think, is priority and I see my kids trying really hard and getting little or nothing in return.

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Re: Should I...
« Reply #1 on: December 03, 2012, 09:49:12 PM »
I don't have any answers, but it was lovely to read your words about your wife and children.

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« Reply #2 on: December 03, 2012, 09:54:22 PM »
This explains a lot.
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« Reply #3 on: December 04, 2012, 02:48:20 AM »
This explains a lot.
It does?  Such as?

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« Reply #4 on: December 04, 2012, 03:13:49 AM »
This explains a lot.
It does?  Such as?
Your enthusiastic support for capitalism, I'd venture. Jobs in a socialist economy aren't exactly like this.

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« Reply #5 on: December 04, 2012, 03:18:10 AM »
This explains a lot.
It does?  Such as?
Your enthusiastic support for capitalism, I'd venture. Jobs in a socialist economy aren't exactly like this.

They have jobs in Socialist economy? We don't have much of those in our Scandinavian Socialism.

As of OP, I can't say anything without feeling like an idiot since I've never faced that kind of problems. Hope you find suitable solution which offers both time for your family and ensures your financial situation.
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« Reply #6 on: December 04, 2012, 03:59:09 AM »
Kerdy, no one can answer this for you. But take into consideration what is most important.

I've changed careers when it was necessary for my family and you know what? There are times I have regretted it and times when I haven't. What matters is that you do whatever you do with the intention of making your relationships with God and your family the biggest priorities. They are your salvation. Work, though it is important and a part of your podvig, comes and goes and any sense of security you have from your job is unfortunately false. God is your security and he desires you to come to him and effect the lives of those closest to you. Bless your coworkers while you are with them. If the Lord desires you to leave, he will help you find a way. Pray. Speak to your priest about it. And ask your family what they want. Be a servant in all things and go with God.

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« Reply #7 on: December 04, 2012, 07:28:17 AM »
This explains a lot.
It does?  Such as?
Your enthusiastic support for capitalism, I'd venture. Jobs in a socialist economy aren't exactly like this.

I don't support or attack capitalism.  I just realize it isn't as evil as people pretend.

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« Reply #8 on: December 04, 2012, 07:28:56 AM »
I appreciate everyones thoughts.  Thank you!

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Re: Should I...
« Reply #9 on: December 04, 2012, 08:02:53 AM »
Well, considering that I have never been in your position since I am still a teenager, I could only offer you the advice that my father gave me--and keep in mind that we came from a very low income household, so I don't know if this will apply to you. Nevertheless, here goes.

Stay where the money is. A job isn't about comfort or enjoyment, it's about making money. If it pays well, then keep it at all costs--even if it means dealing with difficult people and living a chaotic personal life. The family needs money.
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« Reply #10 on: December 04, 2012, 08:11:10 AM »
Well, considering that I have never been in your position since I am still a teenager, I could only offer you the advice that my father gave me--and keep in mind that we came from a very low income household, so I don't know if this will apply to you. Nevertheless, here goes.

Stay where the money is. A job isn't about comfort or enjoyment, it's about making money. If it pays well, then keep it at all costs--even if it means dealing with difficult people and living a chaotic personal life. The family needs money.

I sincerely hope you learn how wrong that attitude is before you end up where I am, stuck doing something you don't really enjoy in a place you don't really wish to be and unable to make the change you'd like to because you have 'golden handcuffs'. If I had an opportunity to retrain now I'd grasp it with both hands even though I'd be left with less money, and I'd do so with the blessing of my family. Unfortunately it's possible to be trapped by money so I can't - I have to keep my higher salary simply to keep up the mortgage payments (and, no we don't have a large house, we're just stuck having to live in an expensive area due to the work I'm in). Money brings its own problems and it certainly is no kind of panacea. I genuinely wish I'd chosen lower paid but more satisfying work when I was younger - your age perhaps.

Kerdy,

If a change will make you and your family happier I'd say go for it.

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