Ah yes, the Episcopal Church. They're so tolerant and easy-going. Wide is the gate and broad is the road...
I'd rather be damned for being tolerant and easy going than rigid and intolerant.
I'm sorry you had a bad experience in the Orthodox Church, but my experience has been just the opposite. There has been very little judgementalism and a very loving approach to those struggling with same sex feelings as with any other sin. That is not to say that the Orthodox will glorify those feelings and praise them. If you are offended that the Orthodox Church calls it a sin, that is more of personal issue, not an issue with the Church.
What was really hurtful was when my priest told me, after I approached him seeking chrismation, that I he wished to see more enthusiasm from me. Despite the fact I'd duitifully attended Vespers, Mattens, and the Divine Liturgy for months and was very knowledgeable about the Orthodox life and Christianity in general. I was in the process of being diagnosed with adult autism and apply for disability, and then later the priest started asking questions about me, suspicious that I might be gay, so I came out to him about my feelings about the LGBT community (I never came out as LGBT myself, but I think it didn't matter). When I told him about my autism months later, he gave me his sympathies, but there was no attempt to accomodate me as a person into the Church. I felt abandoned. After a mental breakdown during Holy Week that landed me up in the county mental clinic, I decided I had a duty to the people that loved me to stay sane, and I would abandon the heavy, abusive demands of my religion after Easter. I needed less penance and contrition in my life and more hope and genuine community caring about me in my suffering. Easter Vigil two years ago was the last time I went to an Orthodox church.
A few months later I was told I had a brain tumor by a neurosurgeon, and I delt with the fears and worrries of cancer for a year, feeling abandoned by a religion I had alot of "enthusiasm" for, but I guess didn't show. In the end I even started to feel abandoned by God as God became more and more distant in my life, and I developed fibromyalgia, the worst pain I have ever felt in my life, and often times it left me unable to sleep. Life became all about pain, and I was left a sad, hurting person.
When I went to the Episcopal cathedral months after leaving the Orthodox Church, Dean Clarke answered my questions and attempted to comfort me as best he could, even though in the end I think he knew I was deeply hurt. I told him I was not ready to go back to a church, but I thank him for his time, and for the book he gave me on an Anglican monastery in Michigan (I'd expressed interest in monasticism). Rev. Clarke said it would be OK for me to attend his church and receive the sacraments even though I was openly bisexual (note, that doesn't mean "unchaste") and involved in LGBT community groups, making friends there, and I supported gay rights, and he did his best to answer my frustrations with some words of wisdom from experience, not church dogma (but officially, I know, the diocese here doesn't bless same sex unions, but they do have gay and lesbian couples in the churches). He explained my religious confusion as something that God could work with, it didn't require enthusiasm, just a willingness to start participating. This made a huge difference to me, and I wish my Orthodox priest could have handled my situation in a similar way, by treating me as a human being that God loved instead of a pastoral problem.
I visisted a massage therapist a few months ago to deal with some of my pain, and she turned out to be Greek Orthodox (not a convert) and she said that at her church, she knew of several people that were openly gay and tolerated, and didn't understand why it would be an issue at other Orthodox churches. I suspect the attitudes to gay people vary alot in different jurisdictions My OCA priest was a convert from Presbyterianism ten years before, and I'm not sure he really had internalized a good, healthy spiritual life, nor did he really understand how to help me and still keep his integrity in his beliefs.