One other thing that is nice about the RCC is you can go to mass and leave at the end and on the way to your car if people say hi it generally is just "hi." I'm not a fan of the protestant fellowship coffee hour that many Orthodox parishes have.
God forbid that in a place where we are a minority, that we ought to try to socialize with our fellow Orthodox Christians, or have any sense of community, especially since those Protestants were the first to start doing it.
I think he's referring to the "WHY DONT YOU COME AND JOIN US AT COFFEE HOUR?!" mentality that's often present. It can be incredibly stressful for introvert types and very off putting. Forcing people to socialize is not fostering community.
People who don't want to can leave after the liturgy. When did we forget how to say no in this passive-aggressive society?
You've apparently never experienced the "helpful" parishoner who "gently" guides visitors by the arm into the hall after being repeatedly told, "No, I'm sorry I can't stay."
Or have been confronted by three or four of the "welcoming committee" en masse
who understand that you have to leave but really just want to show you their beautiful hall and, "Oh, here's a cup of coffee and this is so and so...don't you know her father literally helped build this church...and this is her daughter she's going to marry a priest someday say are you interested in going to seminary..."
The problem isn't that people don't know how to ,"No."
It's that people don't know how to take, "No, thank you," for an answer.
If you're not an introvert (or have some other social anxiety), you have absolutely no idea what this heavy-handed approach at fostering community can do to you and how it can literally make you run away.
Contrast that to every RCC parish I've ever been a part of where coffee hour exists, it's known, and if you want to come, great. If not, see you next Sunday and have a lovely week.