Subdeacon Richard, hopefully you get ordained to the diaconate eventually. That would regularise your situation and leave you free to concentrate on the deacon's duties, and then the other subdeacons can be normal subdeacons.
My wife is Anglican, she didn't (YET!) follow me into Orthodoxy. This means that a bishop would have to be very brave to ordain me as a deacon, since it's rightly proscribed by the canons. I say 'rightly' because to be even an orthodox layman without your spouse is very hard, to be a deacon with a non-orthodox diaconissa
is even more so. Think how important the Matushka/Presvetera/Khouria
is to the work of any married priest. I pray we will be sent a proper deacon, then I can retire.