Tristran, I hope you find some peace in this matter. The danger for converts to Orthodoxy is that there are lots of exciting (and inspiring) books about describing incredible events and incredible people. Guess what - most of us are called to be ordinary Christians. Don't chase after extremes of any kind, don't imagine yourself capapable of great feats of ascetiscism. Just fast when the Church calls you to fast, feast when she calls you to feast, and keep saying your prayers. There are millions of faithful "ordinary" Christians around the world living with God. It's enough - don't imagine you have to be an extra special kind of Christian - this thinking will cause you great harm. Take the pressure off yourself, and know that unless you are a monk God doesn't demand more of you than He does of any of those other ordinary Christians you meet in church. Being an ordinary Christian is hard enough for most of us and takes a long time to achieve. Let your priest guide you, befriend people in your parish, and rememeber that those people who do not yet confess Christ are created in God's image and are not evil.
God bless you.
This is fantastic advice, Fr. Spyridon; however, I'd say that there are some of whom more is required than others, as Christ proclaims in Luke.
Fortunately, here in Des Moines, I have been blessed with a fantastic spiritual Father - not that he tells me everything I want to hear, but that he has told me everything that I *need* to hear. If your Fr. is requiring you to be a whited sepulchre, I'd look for the next nearby Orthodox church; don't walk away from Christ's body just because someone is not representing Her well! Also, have you thought about (perhaps anonymously) reporting this behavior to the bishop of your diocese? I don't know how this works, since I am a mere Catechumen myself, but maybe something along these lines is worth looking into. If your Fr. is not doing well as your spiritual guide, the bishop of whom he is an icon may wanna know about that.