re: the title of this thread, I know some people who have, and many, many more who likely have. Most people I know don’t really advertise either way – and I would be wary of people who advertise their sexual lives or lack thereof. To find such a member of the oppose sex, my own practical advice would just be to hang around and meet people.
IMO, sex is a statement of permanent love between the two people, with God, and with the children that frequent sex can produce. If we take these out of the equation – especially the first three – then we have serious problems.
Also, whether one has/hasn’t had sex before IMO is not as important as what one thinks right now (i.e. what’s in one’s heart, to say nothing of repentance, means a lot), as well as one’s attempt to live it (i.e. being chaste because you have no libido is easy. Being chaste – both in body and in your heart - while being really horny is to be a witness)
Besides, what's wrong with promiscuous girls?
If you get involved with one, you might be unfortunate enough to find out.
"Amen" to that. A truly promiscuous person (not just someone who’s had sex outside of marriage, but one who actively goes about looking for frequent sex with different people) uses sex and their sexual partners as toys. In the end, they don’t care at all about either beyond their own pleasure. They also don’t really care about their health, for that matter. Ick!
Instead of forcing us to take the hard path by fasting and doing all of that aforementioned stuff, why don't God take responsibility for His creations and do something for us? Sure, He became incarnate and defeated death, but that doesn't change the fact that He has still given us an impossible ethical code to follow. Maybe I don't want to accept the honor of being called to become a God and would rather stay an animal.
Maybe if He didn't allow my mother to be abused and live her life without a male role model (fatherless) then she would not have fornicated...
"Doing something for us" or "making it easy" would be an indication that he doesn't want us to participate with him in something, i.e. goodness, love for your spouse, or in creation of new humans. It would also imply that we're just God's toys, and/or that sex is some sort of unimportant automatic task like eating or resting or some such.
I am also very sorry that your mother's story has been so difficult. But again, we're not God's pets or toys. He respects our choices, to include our sinfulness, and often does not save us from the consequence of our sins, nor does he necessarily "save" the innocent from the consequences of others' sin. This is why sin can be so horrible - it has consequences for you and can often have horrible consequences for other people, a cycle that can perpetuate itself. Salvation is the opposite - it is our invitation to participate with God and break such cycles. From a pastoral perspective -looking out for the good of the people of the church - abuse is always wrong and needs to be directly, unequivocally condemned. Fornication is also wrong it is arguably "not as bad", and how to deal with it for the good of the person can vary - direct unequivocal condemnation in some cases is not the best way. Rather, working with people slowly and patiently is often better.
Again, IMO, from salvation's perspective what happens before - to you, to me, to anyone - is not as important as what is done today.