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You Are Not a Failure
« on: February 08, 2013, 08:14:51 AM »
You are not a failure. You are a child of God. You might sin, struggle, stumble, and fall; but you are NOT a failure. You are the very image of God. You are so valuable that God became a man and died on the Cross for you. You are so precious in His sight that He extends His unfailing mercy and offers His unconditional love to you.

The judgments of society are not the judgments of Our Lord. The fickle loyalty of man is not the abiding love of God. The demands of society are not the peace of the Savior. The standards of the world are not the expectations of our Creator. Sometimes those who try the hardest are those who suffer the most. Those who strive to ‘seek peace and pursue it’ [I Peter 3:11] are those who experience the greatest violence. Those who proclaim righteousness are those who may fall into the worst of sins. Those who desire holiness are those who may succumb to the foulest temptations. And those who truly serve a heavenly cause are those who may suffer the worst earthly hardships.

When people say, “His ministry failed; her marriage failed; their children failed; etc.” they speak the words of the devil rather than the words of God. For “Our Lord works all things together for the good of those who love Him.” [Romans 8:28] The works of true love and genuine service to others are never failures. Ministry and marriage are not businesses that predicate success upon financial gain, popular following, or longevity. What appears to be stable on the outside may be rotten at the core, and what appears to be broken on the surface may be rock solid underneath.

So remember that God does not look at any of His children as ‘failures.’ His love is too pure, too great, too faithful and too profound. He looks upon us with love- not because we deserve it, not because we have earned it, not because we are holy and not because we are wretched. God loves mankind because He is God and He has fashioned us with divine love. If we know this truth, we will rise up and march forward with faith and hope- regardless of our circumstances, setbacks, sins or mistakes. The love of God is ever faithful and ever sure. Let nothing cause us to think otherwise.





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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #1 on: February 08, 2013, 08:37:12 AM »
Thanks for posting that, Gebre.
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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #2 on: February 08, 2013, 08:39:59 AM »
Amen, Amen, Amen.
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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #3 on: February 08, 2013, 08:41:01 AM »
Very encouraging. Thanks.
"This is the cross - to become dead to the whole world, to suffer sorrows, temptations and other passions of Christ; in bearing this cross with complete patience, we imitate Christ's passion and thus glorify our God the Father as His sons in grace and co-heirs of Christ." --St. Symeon the New Theologian

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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #4 on: February 08, 2013, 10:08:19 AM »
Thank you, I needed to hear that.
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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #5 on: February 08, 2013, 11:13:36 AM »
Newage.

People fail.

People are failures.

It is not a very American sentiment where one can always "turn it around" and become something new. One of the most endearing things I saw in EE (to a lesser degree in CE) was that being failure was not seen as a problem.

People try. They fail. Big deal.

In the world of capitalist-everyone-can-make-it-at-any-given-time does failure take on moral dimensions.

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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #7 on: February 08, 2013, 11:31:33 AM »
I am a failure amongst failures. But thanks for trying to cheer me up.
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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #8 on: February 08, 2013, 11:36:12 AM »
"This is the cross - to become dead to the whole world, to suffer sorrows, temptations and other passions of Christ; in bearing this cross with complete patience, we imitate Christ's passion and thus glorify our God the Father as His sons in grace and co-heirs of Christ." --St. Symeon the New Theologian

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« Reply #9 on: February 08, 2013, 12:13:26 PM »
Very beautiful! I see that in our times we are confronted with a terrible illness. I guess we could call it spiritual depression. We don't believe in God's perfect love, and that He came to save us, to sacrifice Himself in order to be The One who forgives us because only He can forgive as a gift even as He allows Himself to be harmed by us. Truly, The Gospel is being turned upside down. We see God as possessed master who can't even bear the sight of us. I see this in a lot of Christians around the world. In Romania, where we are an Orthodox nation, this depression manifests itself in all sorts of sad ways. Even those in The Church who try to act happy according to ways and the standards of the world still appear as not fulfilled and transformed by the light and joy that can only be found in Christ through The Grace of The Holy Spirit.
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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #10 on: February 08, 2013, 12:18:36 PM »
"You're worthwhile," says hatchet-wielding hitchhiker.

I've watched that video about four times now. Kai is the bomb!

My mistake. Not that video, but the actual interview.
Sorry, carry on. :)
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"This is the cross - to become dead to the whole world, to suffer sorrows, temptations and other passions of Christ; in bearing this cross with complete patience, we imitate Christ's passion and thus glorify our God the Father as His sons in grace and co-heirs of Christ." --St. Symeon the New Theologian

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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #11 on: February 08, 2013, 06:38:37 PM »
Very encouraging, Gebre. Thank you. :)

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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #12 on: February 09, 2013, 03:56:16 AM »
I am a failure amongst failures. But thanks for trying to cheer me up.


The point is that although we all fail in many ways, God does not look upon us as "failures." He always looks upon us as His divine image, and therefore He extends His unfailing mercy and unconditional love to us. Perhaps most of the sin and evil in the world is the consequence of our failure to see ourselves and our fellow man as God sees us.



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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #13 on: February 09, 2013, 04:11:32 AM »
If I could make it to the Judgment seat knowing that I've mastered control over my carnal passions, I won't see myself as a failure.
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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #14 on: February 09, 2013, 04:16:28 AM »
If I could make it to the Judgment seat knowing that I've mastered control over my carnal passions, I won't see myself as a failure.

But let's not push it too far :)

"So likewise ye, when ye shall have done all those things which are commanded you, say, We are unprofitable servants: we have done that which was our duty to do." - Lk. 17:10

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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #15 on: February 09, 2013, 04:44:08 AM »
If I could make it to the Judgment seat knowing that I've mastered control over my carnal passions, I won't see myself as a failure.

But let's not push it too far :)

"So likewise ye, when ye shall have done all those things which are commanded you, say, We are unprofitable servants: we have done that which was our duty to do." - Lk. 17:10



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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #16 on: February 09, 2013, 04:56:49 AM »
If I could make it to the Judgment seat knowing that I've mastered control over my carnal passions, I won't see myself as a failure.

But let's not push it too far :)

"So likewise ye, when ye shall have done all those things which are commanded you, say, We are unprofitable servants: we have done that which was our duty to do." - Lk. 17:10



I knew you were going to quote that. I should become a gypsy fortune-teller

Seemed like the most relevant Scripture verse  :angel:
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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #17 on: February 09, 2013, 05:26:08 AM »
Thank you, GMK. I needed that.
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Re: You Are Not a Failure
« Reply #18 on: February 09, 2013, 05:32:41 AM »
If I could make it to the Judgment seat knowing that I've mastered control over my carnal passions, I won't see myself as a failure.

But let's not push it too far :)

"So likewise ye, when ye shall have done all those things which are commanded you, say, We are unprofitable servants: we have done that which was our duty to do." - Lk. 17:10



I knew you were going to quote that. I should become a gypsy fortune-teller

Seemed like the most relevant Scripture verse  :angel:


Indeed. I hope that my OP does not indicate that we can get to heaven by our own worthiness. That was sort of my point. We do fail and we do sin, but God still looks upon us with love. Humans judge us by our successes or failure, but God's Judgment is different it seems.

I was inspired to write the OP after learing that a friend I admire and respect greatly is getting divorced after 30 years of marriage. My friend has written many books on spiritual themes, and he and his wife had even written a wonderful book about marriage. So I could only imagine that they may feel like failures. And I think of all the other people in this world who strive to serve God and help others yet still suffer from divorce, the loss of jobs, the dissolution of a ministry, etc. It is easy to feel like a failure and to give up trying. But God doesn't look upon us like man does. He doesn't sit up in heaven and shake His head in disappointment. People are harsh, cruel, and judgmental. So, I just wanted to offer a word of hope to all of us. I had the audacity to write a book about Orthodoxy, yet everyday I feel like a failure. But if I wait until I'm righteous before I try to serve the Lord, then I'll never do anything at all. My friend's book on marriage has been very helpful to me. And although he is getting a divorce, that doesn't nullify the beautiful truths and principles that he has written about. And those 30 years of marriage produced a lot of wonderful fruit. He and his wife blessed and touched countless lives during their time together. So, I don't look at them as failures, even if society does. I've been beat down, rejected, betrayed, and judged so much in my life. It has been a constant struggle to maintain faith in God's love. It has been a constant struggle to believe that my life is actually worth something. May God give us strength.

"Lord have mercy."



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