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Did you invite people
« on: August 26, 2012, 06:17:09 PM »
Did you invite people to your baptism/chrismation?
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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #1 on: August 26, 2012, 06:19:41 PM »
Yes, I invited my Catholic wife and Protestant parents.  They went and did fine.

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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #2 on: August 26, 2012, 06:33:35 PM »
Non-practicing parents raised RC, and my evangelical friend.
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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #3 on: August 26, 2012, 07:31:22 PM »
I invited my parents and closest friends, along with my Godparents (actually, they had to be there.)
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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #4 on: August 26, 2012, 07:36:20 PM »
To my own I invited my Mother, and I don't recall if I invited anyone else or not. To the baptism of my children we invited various family members (maybe a dozen each time).
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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #5 on: August 26, 2012, 08:17:56 PM »
No I'm more of a solitary person and I'm the only Orthodox in my family. I'd actually would have had no problem going alone. My parents invited themselves though and came. I have to say though that they were really respectful and surprised me since they were usually kinda negative toward my conversion.
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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #6 on: August 26, 2012, 10:08:33 PM »
Yes.  Actually my close friends asked if they could come.  I had about a dozen close friends there in addition to my godparents and some folks from church.  It was great.

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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #7 on: August 27, 2012, 02:38:24 AM »
Would it be weird if I invited a few good friends but not family?
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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #8 on: August 27, 2012, 07:29:28 AM »
Firstly I had thought to invite quite a lot of people. But, finally, for my chrismation have come only one of my best friends and my mum (Roman Catholic), who was a bit late and haven't stayed for the Liturgy. My father who is orthodox couldn't come (long story). As for the rest of people, there were 3 reasons that I had not invited them: it was Christmas Eve so the majority rather couldn't come; I was trying to be chrismated a few years and my friends were a bit tired of this situation; I wanted to focus on the God, on the service than on my guests.
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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #9 on: August 27, 2012, 09:06:47 AM »
anastasia1, maybe you should tell people about it, but not make it a big deal that they should come. after all, it is not like a graduation or retirement. having a party is totally optional.
if you tell some people and not others, the others may later get offended, so try not to offend anyone. if you tell them and then say, 'you can come if you want', then, if they don't want to come, it is easy for them to decline. then you can invite a close friend, without feeling like you have to keep anything secret (secrets always get out; best not to bother with them).

i was the only one in my family who felt positive towards orthodoxy and my protestant friends were not encouraging me either. in the end, the closest person to me was not interested in coming, so i didn't invite anyone else.
also, there were only 2 days between agreeing a date with the priest and the date coming, so there was only my priest and i there, plus another church friend who was busy setting up the church ready for raising of incense and who was involved a little. no one else had arrived yet.

but all the church people (of whom i knew about 90%, it was a smallish church) realised it had happened as, afterwards, i went up for Holy Communion for the first time, so everybody congratulated me afterwards during coffee. that was really nice, but i couldn't stay around as i had to rush home and cook dinner for guests! so you don't have to do it in a rush like i did, but i had been an inquirer for 3 years by then and was in a rush to do the deed, once i had established that it doing it would not cause too much trouble at home.

i think my friends were a bit like dominika's friends. they knew i had been going to 'that funny church' for some time, so it was not a big deal to them at all. when i told them afterwards, it was like, 'oh, o.k. but make sure you a still a Christian and you still read the Bible and pray' (like as if i was getting into a weird cult!)

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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #10 on: August 27, 2012, 02:02:03 PM »
Would it be weird if I invited a few good friends but not family?
If you had a good reason, no
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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #11 on: August 30, 2012, 01:22:54 PM »
Invited friends and immediate family. Immediate family isn't religious and didn't show (didn't expect them to), but several close friends came. A few of which are now catechumen themselves.
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Re: Did you invite people
« Reply #12 on: September 01, 2012, 09:02:41 PM »
My mother will probably be the only one coming to my chrismation. Honestly, I'm a little embarrassed to invite anyone else. I had such a big group of people come the night I was received in the Catholic church at the Easter vigil and I don't want to ask them to come watch me go through--basically--the same process. I know it's wrong to be embarrassed but I can't help it. Only my mother and a few friends even know I'm a catechumen.
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