Not similar but I will share mine.
About two years ago I started exploring different aspects of my Catholic faith. I tried going to traditional Mass (Latin) to see if it fits me. It doesn't. Then I visited, with the intention of only catechesis for myself, some of the Eastern Catholic parishes in my area. When I got to the Byzantine one (which is the UGCC parish), I was overwhelmed with what I saw. Overwhelmed with joy. I felt that is where I want to be. When I wanted to move to the new parish, I asked my wife. She didn't really want to move but she told me that if that is where I want to go, she would want us to go to church as a family. So she quit her position with the choir and went with me.
So we became Eastern Catholics. A year later we found out that we are having another child. I wanted our child to be given the Sacraments according to the rites of the Ukrainian Catholic Church, so to remove any canonical hurdle to that I said we should make a canonical transfer to the Ukrainian Church. I spoke to the Ukrainian bishop about it and he was glad I wanted to do that. I was going to do it alone, as only one of the parents need to be a canonical member of the Church sui juris (Catholic canonical stuff) for the children to receive the Sacraments in the Church. But my bishop advised me that we should transfer as a family. So I asked my wife and she hesitated. She said she'll think about it but never really made a priority of it. Our bishop (we regard the UGCC bishop as our bishop regardless of what canon law says) found a way for our child to be baptized, chrismated and communed in the Eastern rite anyway so I didn't press for her to make a decision. To me what our bishop said and what my wife decided to do (or not do) is what God is telling me to do (or not do).
Fast forward to this year and now I am feeling that pull to Orthodoxy. And as you will here here in this forum, I have a couple of topics about my cold feet in converting and the emotional stress I am going through thinking about converting. But going back on what our bishop told me and what I always believe about my marriage (that is it my vocation in life), I will go with what my wife says. No use in me converting if my wife won't. As much as I think Orthodoxy is the right faith for us as a family, I'm not going to be in a religion where I am not in communion with my wife. We're suppose to be one flesh as Christ has said, so how can one flesh be not in communion with one another? I know there are many mixed marriages out there and this is not meant to kick dirt in their eye or anything, but this is how I view my own marriage. I have spoken of how wonderful the priest is and how nice the community is in the Orthodox parish I have visited. Next month we'll go as a family. I will let her decide. If she says no, then we won't. Although it seems that she wants to leave such decisions to me because I'm the one who spends a lot of time thinking about this, I don't want to pull her into something she doesn't want to be a part of. And after some discernment I was listening to the bible study of said Orthodox priest regarding the Acts of the Apostles. It was about the draw of lots for the replacement of Judas. I told myself it would have been nice if I can draw lots and expect God to provide me the answer. Then I realized that my wife does hold that neutral position on the matter. Unlike me, she hasn't over analyzed the situation. She will decide without struggling with the issues I struggled with. She has a purer heart and mind on the matter than I have. So we will see how this will work out in the coming months. Where she decides is where we will go.
Maybe you should do the same thing. Make her part of the journey, make her part of the decision. Were you planning on becoming Orthodox without her?
