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Offline Shiny

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Re: Lying to Your Children?
« Reply #45 on: September 14, 2012, 06:54:46 PM »
Enjoy your naive spiritual romanticism.
You know what I seriously miss from my youth? My wild-eyed romanticsm. Those were the days and my indominable optimism too.
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Re: Lying to Your Children?
« Reply #46 on: September 17, 2012, 01:12:06 PM »
Well you see James there is this birds and bees thing...

They never lied to me about that either. Sex is a taboo to children precisely because the parents make it a taboo.

I dunno about that one.

Our rooster hops on top of the chickens all the time, and the goats are just... goats.
When the children ask we tell them they are breeding.   If they ask more we tell them "That's how baby chicks come about, and baby goats etc."

When the questions come about people "breeding", we tell them it is not "breeding" like with animals, but a gift from God from married people.  Then we talk about the Miracle of our savior's birth without breeding etc.

Not taboo, just part of the creation. 

Tabooishness (LOL) exists when people bring perversion into the matter.

Also please remember, just not talking about something doesn't make it taboo.  There are things that are private.... Of course unless you want your parents to stop closing the door ;)
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Re: Lying to Your Children?
« Reply #47 on: September 27, 2012, 12:38:02 AM »
Well you see James there is this birds and bees thing...

They never lied to me about that either. Sex is a taboo to children precisely because the parents make it a taboo.

I dunno about that one.

Our rooster hops on top of the chickens all the time, and the goats are just... goats.
When the children ask we tell them they are breeding.   If they ask more we tell them "That's how baby chicks come about, and baby goats etc."

When the questions come about people "breeding", we tell them it is not "breeding" like with animals, but a gift from God from married people.  Then we talk about the Miracle of our savior's birth without breeding etc.

Not taboo, just part of the creation. 

Tabooishness (LOL) exists when people bring perversion into the matter.

Also please remember, just not talking about something doesn't make it taboo.  There are things that are private.... Of course unless you want your parents to stop closing the door ;)

Good explanation.

Maybe you should write a book.

I told my son that the Santa Claus found in stores is not real, but St. Nicholas the Wonderworker is the real one. Then I read from the lives of the saints.

However, when he watched a Christmas movie on TV at the age of four, he became convinced that Santa Claus really existed. He wanted to believe, and liked the idea that Santa would come bearing gifts.
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Re: Lying to Your Children?
« Reply #48 on: September 27, 2012, 03:25:05 AM »
Good evening,

Witnessing first hand from my children, I think that everything should be revealed to them at the right time and place,

As the saying goes 'You can't handle the truth' applies true to our children with a lot issues (eg sex) until they reach understanding and maturity.
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