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Offline Tikhon.of.Colorado

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For a friend who took her own life.
« on: July 27, 2012, 12:20:00 AM »
Hello, all.

I ask your prayers for my friend, Lynsey.

She was 18, just about to go into senior year with me and the rest of my class.  She was very loved.  She had a job, and was taking advanced classes and early college courses.  She seemed to have the world at her feet, and everyone knew she would be successful.  She was kind to everyone.

She took her own life in a terrible way yesterday morning.  The whole school is deeply shocked that someone would do this,e specially someone as loved by the community as her.

Please pray for her, her family, and those who will really mourn her death.

Thank you.

-Trevor
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #1 on: July 27, 2012, 12:26:19 AM »
Oh God Trevor!

I am so sorry! Lord have mercy!

And some folks were just celebrating your birthday in thread you might not see.

http://www.orthodoxchristianity.net/forum/index.php/topic,46055.msg782975.html#msg782975
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #2 on: July 27, 2012, 12:31:52 AM »
Sorry to hear that man, I'm in CO if you need me.

Lord have mercy!
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #3 on: July 27, 2012, 12:33:56 AM »
Quote from: Achronos on July 27, 2012, 12:31:52 AM
Sorry to hear that man, I'm in CO if you need me.

Lord have mercy!
Thank you very much, Achronos.  I shall keep that in mind.

It just pisses me off that she didn't say anything.  I mean, someone could have helped her through whatever she was going through.  She had such a promising future.  I'm almost mad at her, because she seemed to be luckier than many.

I just wish I knew what drove her to it.  That poor girl.  Our class really won't be complete. 
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #4 on: July 27, 2012, 12:37:45 AM »
 :'( Praying...
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #5 on: July 27, 2012, 12:38:11 AM »
Lord be merciful to her.
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #6 on: July 27, 2012, 12:43:33 AM »
Quote from: trevor72694 on July 27, 2012, 12:33:56 AM
Quote from: Achronos on July 27, 2012, 12:31:52 AM
Sorry to hear that man, I'm in CO if you need me.

Lord have mercy!
Thank you very much, Achronos.  I shall keep that in mind.

It just pisses me off that she didn't say anything.  I mean, someone could have helped her through whatever she was going through.  She had such a promising future.  I'm almost mad at her, because she seemed to be luckier than many.

I just wish I knew what drove her to it.  That poor girl.  Our class really won't be complete.  

I know this is the prayer forum and sometimes personal stuff blurs the line. But coming from someone who has dealt with this more than I would like to recount, being angry is OK. And maybe no one could have helped her. And that is sad.

Who knows?

But whatever you feel, is OK. I hope you have plenty of folks around from friends, to family, to pastoral care, to therapeutic care if you need it.

And as little as it might matter, I know for a fact that oc.net has a very special place in its heart for you. In fact, a not small part of that heart has gone missing in your absence.

You never fail to soften the heart of this cryptic cynic with your straight forward honesty and kindness amid whatever pain and joys you go through. And that is something for which I am always grateful. As are the folks who have to put up with me in real life.

Take care Trevor.

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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #7 on: July 27, 2012, 12:46:20 AM »
Quote from: orthonorm on July 27, 2012, 12:43:33 AM
Quote from: trevor72694 on July 27, 2012, 12:33:56 AM
Quote from: Achronos on July 27, 2012, 12:31:52 AM
Sorry to hear that man, I'm in CO if you need me.

Lord have mercy!
Thank you very much, Achronos.  I shall keep that in mind.

It just pisses me off that she didn't say anything.  I mean, someone could have helped her through whatever she was going through.  She had such a promising future.  I'm almost mad at her, because she seemed to be luckier than many.

I just wish I knew what drove her to it.  That poor girl.  Our class really won't be complete. 

I know this is the prayer forum and sometimes personal stuff blurs the line. But coming from someone who has dealt with this more than I would like to recount, being angry is OK. And maybe no one could have helped her. And that is sad.

Who knows?

But whatever you feel, is OK. I hope you have plenty of folks around from friends, to family, to pastoral care, to therapeutic care if you need it.

And as little as it might matter, I know for a fact that oc.net has a very special place in its heart for you. In fact, a not small part of that heart has gone missing in your absence.

You never fail to soften the heart of this cryptic cynic with your straight forward honesty and kindness amid whatever pain and joys you go through. And that is something for I am always grateful. As are the folks who have to put up with me in real life.

Take care Trevor.


I wish I had as much as, for lack of better word, "innocence". He is among the better of us, for sure.
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Offline Tikhon.of.Colorado

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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #8 on: July 27, 2012, 12:47:29 AM »
Quote from: orthonorm on July 27, 2012, 12:43:33 AM
Quote from: trevor72694 on July 27, 2012, 12:33:56 AM
Quote from: Achronos on July 27, 2012, 12:31:52 AM
Sorry to hear that man, I'm in CO if you need me.

Lord have mercy!
Thank you very much, Achronos.  I shall keep that in mind.

It just pisses me off that she didn't say anything.  I mean, someone could have helped her through whatever she was going through.  She had such a promising future.  I'm almost mad at her, because she seemed to be luckier than many.

I just wish I knew what drove her to it.  That poor girl.  Our class really won't be complete. 

I know this is the prayer forum and sometimes personal stuff blurs the line. But coming from someone who has dealt with this more than I would like to recount, being angry is OK. And maybe no one could have helped her. And that is sad.

Who knows?

But whatever you feel, is OK. I hope you have plenty of folks around from friends, to family, to pastoral care, to therapeutic care if you need it.

And as little as it might matter, I know for a fact that oc.net has a very special place in its heart for you. In fact, a not small part of that heart has gone missing in your absence.

You never fail to soften the heart of this cryptic cynic with your straight forward honesty and kindness amid whatever pain and joys you go through. And that is something for I am always grateful. As are the folks who have to put up with me in real life.

Take care Trevor.



I am fine, perfectly fine.  I'm just extremely upset that this would happen in my community. 

It's been so hard.

I live in Colorado.  First our state nearly burns down, then the man walked into the movie theater and killed people, injuring many, and now this.

Something good needs to happen soon in my community or everyone will go nutts.


Please also keep in your prayers this girl's boyfriend.  They had broken up maybe one week before her suicide.  He still refers to her as his "best friend".  I know that if I was him, I would feel terrible.
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #9 on: July 27, 2012, 12:50:48 AM »
Quote from: Achronos on July 27, 2012, 12:46:20 AM
Quote from: orthonorm on July 27, 2012, 12:43:33 AM
Quote from: trevor72694 on July 27, 2012, 12:33:56 AM
Quote from: Achronos on July 27, 2012, 12:31:52 AM
Sorry to hear that man, I'm in CO if you need me.

Lord have mercy!
Thank you very much, Achronos.  I shall keep that in mind.

It just pisses me off that she didn't say anything.  I mean, someone could have helped her through whatever she was going through.  She had such a promising future.  I'm almost mad at her, because she seemed to be luckier than many.

I just wish I knew what drove her to it.  That poor girl.  Our class really won't be complete. 

I know this is the prayer forum and sometimes personal stuff blurs the line. But coming from someone who has dealt with this more than I would like to recount, being angry is OK. And maybe no one could have helped her. And that is sad.

Who knows?

But whatever you feel, is OK. I hope you have plenty of folks around from friends, to family, to pastoral care, to therapeutic care if you need it.

And as little as it might matter, I know for a fact that oc.net has a very special place in its heart for you. In fact, a not small part of that heart has gone missing in your absence.

You never fail to soften the heart of this cryptic cynic with your straight forward honesty and kindness amid whatever pain and joys you go through. And that is something for I am always grateful. As are the folks who have to put up with me in real life.

Take care Trevor.


I wish I had as much as, for lack of better word, "innocence". He is among the better of us, for sure.

Thank you very much, I am flattered.

Not to diverge from what this topic is truly about too much.

I admit, it's not "innocence" that I used to put off.  I think that I was merely suffering from "convertitis" (the crazy, overly-zealous convert disease).

Since I stopped posting here I did a bit of growing up.  My beliefs have changed and I've realized things about myself that I had no clue about before.

I hope that I can still contribute to this wonderful community like I used to.
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #10 on: July 27, 2012, 12:54:49 AM »
Since this is the prayer forum, I'll refrain from asking more questions about you. Maybe elsewhere.
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #11 on: July 27, 2012, 12:56:46 AM »
Quote from: Achronos on July 27, 2012, 12:54:49 AM
Since this is the prayer forum, I'll refrain from asking more questions about you. Maybe elsewhere.

Feel free to PM me if you'd like.   :)
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #12 on: July 27, 2012, 01:08:12 AM »
Oh Trevor! I just saw this after you know..., I am so sorry dear, how very sad! May the Lord grant her eternal rest in His Peace. Amen Lord have mercy!

what orthonorm said is very true, about the normality of the emotional termoil you might be experiancing right now, the need to get the necessary care if you need it, and how much you are appreciated here.


God be with you!
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #13 on: July 27, 2012, 03:45:03 AM »
Lord have mercy for all involved.
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #14 on: July 27, 2012, 04:48:44 AM »
Lord have mercy.
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #15 on: July 27, 2012, 07:49:05 AM »
Lord have mercy, Lord have mercy, Lord have mercy
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #16 on: July 27, 2012, 08:01:53 AM »
Lord, have mercy!
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #17 on: July 27, 2012, 10:28:16 AM »
Lord have mercy on her soul and grant comfort to her family in this difficult time.
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #18 on: July 27, 2012, 01:24:03 PM »
Lord, have mercy.
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #19 on: July 27, 2012, 01:33:00 PM »
Oh Trevor, I am so sorry. :(

Prayers for your friend, and prayers for you as well.
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #20 on: July 27, 2012, 02:15:49 PM »
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #21 on: July 27, 2012, 07:32:20 PM »
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #22 on: July 27, 2012, 10:58:52 PM »
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #23 on: July 27, 2012, 11:56:23 PM »
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Re: For a friend who took her own life.
« Reply #24 on: July 28, 2012, 12:13:16 AM »
Lord have mercy on Lynsey, on her family, her friends, her boyfriend, and Trevor.
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