I also wanted to note that is wrong to publically speculate as to why didn't x or y get this penance or why is z or w allowed to 'get away' with this or that. Actually it is beyond wrong to do so - it reeks of the sin of the Pharisee and evinces a lack of true humility. If you have a problem with what you PERCEIVE to be the case in your parish - first, speak IN PRIVATE with your priest. Second - if you are not satisfied with how that interaction worked out go to your regional diocesan clergy representative - be it your dean or whatever. Third - if still upset, write a letter with proper respect (maybe not of the person but of the OFFICE that person occupies; if necessary offer to meet in person with your Bishop at his convenience. You don't start out by making assumptions (remember Oscar Madison and Felix Ungers classic exchange on the meaning of the word assume from the 'Odd Couple' - google this if the reference is too obscure or not contemporary enough for some) and reaching conclusions from such assumptions.
The last thing to do, and more often than not the wrong thing to do, is to start off by playing the role of Luther and posting your 99 points online, at a parish meeting or whatever.
I know that modern America in particular doesn't seem to operate that way nowadays, but the Church is not - as most love to remind us all of the time - a particularly modern institution.
I also have to say that many of us who are offering our outside comments on the OCA's current struggles do have a stake in the outcome. As Orthodox Christians - either clergy or informed laity - in full communion with the OCA we believe that what happens to one of our brothers or sisters in Christ will impact all of us. Today, more than ever, we are not for the most part, jurisdictional islands operating next to, but oblivious to the fate of each other. Those days are generally gone - witness the positive things being done - slowly I will concede, by the EA in terms of beginning to organize our missionary efforts, our administrative rules and so on in a proper, canonical and in a manner suited to the contemporary experience - as has been the case throughout the centuries as our Church has found herself in any number of different societal, political and cultural settings - AND ENDURED.