Honestly, I would not worry about it. "The Church is not a dating service" is a particularly stupid way to answer this since it is not the Church providing the dating service.
Forgive me, but I think that is the point that Father was trying to make, i.e., it's just a regular dating website called "Coptic Date". It's not connected to the Church in any way, so don't take its name to mean much. At least that's how I took it.
What is next, am I going to need a Bishop's blessing or have to run to a "spiritual father" to write an email to someone? Things here are taken to the point of ridiculousness.
I agree; you did take that to a ridiculous point just now.
There are also probably cultural reasons for this attitude. None of the Copts I've known are very warm towards things like western dating, on or off the internet (they say it's not taken seriously). From what little I've been able to tell (one deacon has gotten engaged since I've been here), they still do things the super old-fashioned way: going back home to Egypt to find someone there via their family contacts, or carrying that mindset over here and proposing to girls from church, then using the year-long engagement period as the "getting to know you" period. What can I say? It's FOB-ish, but it makes sense when you consider the stakes, since there really is no divorce in the COC except for adultery. Coptic Dating