Men lately have commitment issues. They simply want to milk the cow and not buy it.
I'll bet you that well over half of those women you claim don't get married in their early years, don't, because the men won't commit. They all have "boyfriends"....but, the men are the ones who don't want to get married right now.
It takes two to tango. Most men I know
do have commitment issues. One friend referred to his wedding day as the most nervous he'd been since his first roadside bomb in Iraq. Another is waiting to get married (despite her pressure) so he can get the house bought
before they get married, hoping that if for some reason she divorces him he won't loose his grandfather's house to her. Another has been with some very shady women...but hasn't let them stop him from making sure "their child-bearing years don't get away from them"...3 times. So yes, I wholeheartedly agree with your first sentence.
The problem is, that men are not entirely at fault for this. (I say "entirely" because they do bear some guilt, just not all of it.) For starts, no s**t men want to get the milk for free!
Path of least resistance, yo! If there were not hoards of young "womyn" wearing "free milk" t-shirts they'd probably have to go the traditional route or stick to prostitutes if they desired not to be calcium deficient.
Also, who's choice was it to go out with a man for all those years who refused to commit? I will spare you my usual shameless plug about being one of the "nice guys" who would love to commit to a good Christian woman, and I really have no expectations of sympathy. But don't ask me to give any to women who make poor mate-choices and are burned by the consequences at a later point.
(Actually, I have a friend who routinely makes poor relationship choices and I do have deep sympathy for her, but I try not to let that spoil my bitterness...
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Why marry her, if you are only going to divorce her in a few years, and then have to split your wealth, etc. Many men (even some comments on this forum) treat marriage as a joke or a burden. Believe me, women don't want to be a burden to any man.
With no fault divorce men have to face a double whammy, both emotionally and legally. I think both men and women need to be careful when dealing with marriage these days. There are too many things that can go wrong.
Personally, I WILL NOT marry a non-Christian. I would and have dated them, but that's one of the factors that ended my longest relationship. If she would not convert, I could not marry her. I have no respect for legal marriages. They are just a lop-sided contract to me with no protection for me if it is reneged upon. I do take the sacrament of marriage very seriously and would love to be married someday. But it will be in a Church. Period.
...and let's be honest about men in today's society. You blame the women for going out to work.....this is the downfall of the family. However, that woman who works at the office all day, still is the main childcarer, food preparer and cleaner upper. So, don't think women have it "easier" these days and are shirking their responsibilities. On the contrary, their responsibilities have simply increased....not even mentioning elder-care.
I have no argument with you here. Any woman who is married to me will not be the only one doing the housework / child care. That's one thing that my mother has rammed through my thick skull. (Though, I do think that if one party spends less hours out of the house at work they should get a head start on the house work in their free time, but I believe this should go for whichever party it is, regardless of anatomical configuration!)
It's a society issue, not a woman issue..... the couple wants the bigger house, the new hybrid vehicle, etc.....all of which they cannot obtain on a single income. They need two incomes to fulfill their "dreams". Both parties are just as guilty....and it's their children who suffer, grow up with minimal supervision and a skewed view of what is truly important in this life.
Once again, no argument.
...one more thing. When you men are sizing up your prospective spouse....you look at her beauty....and if she catches your eye because she's either voluptuous, blonde or stick thin....you wonder what it is she "does" for a living. Therefore, YOU expect that woman to be gainfully employed.
I'd prefer dark haired and a little bit of meat...but that's just my thing...
If she were unemployed at age 27, living with and off her parents, I'll bet most of you wouldn't give her a second thought. Be honest with yourselves.
I'd probably giver her a second thought and a third thought...but I concede your point!
