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« Reply #45 on: May 04, 2012, 08:03:11 PM »

This relies on what is written on their hearts. If they know it not to be a sin . . .

Knowledge sucks.


There is no 'their' in the discussion.  I am only discussing my circumstances.  No one else's. 

Unless that is what your were getting at with "Knowledge sucks".

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Unfortunately, it does not seem to be a good option for finding salvation.
What's the salvific option. geronda? Having sex in a monastery? There used to be a few videos on the internet filmed in orthodox monasteries ...

"I say this as a concession, not as a command.  I wish that all of you were as I am.  But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.  Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.  But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion."

That is the Salvific option.

And I assure you, I am NOT saying this flippantly.

If you KNOW it. And I ain't talking about reading it in a tract.

I am certainly damned to hell. But I really doubt the five homosexuals I know best are.

Indeed.  The Scriptures only seem to give two methods involving porking.  Get married and pork or don't pork.  I can't think of anywhere in the Scripture or Tradition, or whatnot where homosexuality is seen as a means for finding salvation.  I cannot think of which sacrament you would use to sanctify it.

Also, keep in mind that I am not judging the homosexual.  I am just stating, sodomy is not going to be a spiritual aide in the same way as receiving Communion, confessing of sins, or being baptized would be.  Apparently the Church considers that marriage between a man and a woman to be a useful aide or it wouldn't be a sacrament.

I have no doubt that some gay people will find salvation.  I believe God is merciful.  I would say there are many good ones out there but that is judging just as much as saying there are bad ones out there.  I have met some that I really liked.  Very few that I haven't.  But all the same, I cannot bring myself to recommend that lifestyle.

I think that this is why it is so important that we define "gay".  In our perverted, porn driven modern America, it seems like the BJ has replaced the goodnight kiss.  If we listen to modern culture, a male and a female cannot be in the same room for more than an hour without screwing.  First, I do not think this universal.  And second, I do not think that it has always been this way.  I can see no reason why two people of the same sex cannot love each other.  In fact, was not the disciple John "the disciple whom Jesus loved"?  Does loving mean that one HAS to have sex?  How many times do we read that Saints lived together as brother and sister?  Two people of the same sex cannot live this way?  I, too, was once rabidly homophobic.  Then I, too, met some gay people.  I am not so willing to judge them now.  Truth be told, I prefer a homo over an straight, alpha male, super jock douchenozzel as a friend any day.  And I am not saying that lightly.  Besides, I think that most homophobes are closeted gays anyway.
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« Reply #46 on: May 04, 2012, 08:25:46 PM »

Where I come from, liking the Smiths/Morrissey means you're a Latina in her teens/early 20s...

Not in Madrid. See if you can find a girl in this audience: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WayoWFKRiZ4    laugh

The Smiths are timelessly and universally awesome, anyway.  Cool
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« Reply #47 on: May 04, 2012, 08:44:13 PM »

Of course not Madrid. Madrid is full of Spanish people; they're all already a bunch of teenage girls.
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« Reply #48 on: May 04, 2012, 09:34:12 PM »

How did this board come to have so many San Franciscans?
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« Reply #49 on: May 04, 2012, 09:34:12 PM »

Looking from the outside in, it seems like the better of the two options if your goal is to be a happy, well rounded person.  Unfortunately, it does not seem to be a good option for finding salvation.

I used to be somewhat exceptionally homophobic.  Then I actually started meeting some gay people.  Having met some I can see why they are called "gay".

Are you suggesting that homosexuals are more likely to be happy people than heterosexuals?  Suicide statistics seem to suggest you are wrong.
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« Reply #50 on: May 04, 2012, 09:34:12 PM »

This relies on what is written on their hearts. If they know it not to be a sin . . .

Knowledge sucks.


There is no 'their' in the discussion.  I am only discussing my circumstances.  No one else's. 

Unless that is what your were getting at with "Knowledge sucks".

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What's the salvific option. geronda? Having sex in a monastery? There used to be a few videos on the internet filmed in orthodox monasteries ...

"I say this as a concession, not as a command.  I wish that all of you were as I am.  But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.  Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.  But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion."

That is the Salvific option.

And I assure you, I am NOT saying this flippantly.

If you KNOW it. And I ain't talking about reading it in a tract.

I am certainly damned to hell. But I really doubt the five homosexuals I know best are.

Indeed.  The Scriptures only seem to give two methods involving porking.  Get married and pork or don't pork.  I can't think of anywhere in the Scripture or Tradition, or whatnot where homosexuality is seen as a means for finding salvation.  I cannot think of which sacrament you would use to sanctify it.

Also, keep in mind that I am not judging the homosexual.  I am just stating, sodomy is not going to be a spiritual aide in the same way as receiving Communion, confessing of sins, or being baptized would be.  Apparently the Church considers that marriage between a man and a woman to be a useful aide or it wouldn't be a sacrament.

I have no doubt that some gay people will find salvation.  I believe God is merciful.  I would say there are many good ones out there but that is judging just as much as saying there are bad ones out there.  I have met some that I really liked.  Very few that I haven't.  But all the same, I cannot bring myself to recommend that lifestyle.

I think that this is why it is so important that we define "gay".  In our perverted, porn driven modern America, it seems like the BJ has replaced the goodnight kiss.  If we listen to modern culture, a male and a female cannot be in the same room for more than an hour without screwing.  First, I do not think this universal.  And second, I do not think that it has always been this way.  I can see no reason why two people of the same sex cannot love each other.  In fact, was not the disciple John "the disciple whom Jesus loved"?  Does loving mean that one HAS to have sex?  How many times do we read that Saints lived together as brother and sister?  Two people of the same sex cannot live this way?  I, too, was once rabidly homophobic.  Then I, too, met some gay people.  I am not so willing to judge them now.  Truth be told, I prefer a homo over an straight, alpha male, super jock douchenozzel as a friend any day.  And I am not saying that lightly.  Besides, I think that most homophobes are closeted gays anyway.

Judging from a multitude of Republican members of Congress, I'm going to agree with you.
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« Reply #51 on: May 04, 2012, 09:55:25 PM »

I do not consider myself to be 100% straight. I have never engaged in the behavior, though.

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« Reply #52 on: May 04, 2012, 09:55:40 PM »

I could call myself "gay", although for feelings for what the word used to mean and what it "should" still in my mind - I now prefer again the old clinical word "homosexual".  (That, and I'm most often not a happy person.)

I hated the attraction for all of my teenage years and early 20s, then embraced it for a time enough to "come out" and have a relationship - sought to join a liberal affirming church, started to feel disappointment that all this did not truly make me a happy person, spiritually attracted to Orthodoxy but not having the mind to be actually convinced of all its ecclesiastical claims, anyway for the past three years repressed again while deferring to what seems to be the broad scope of historical Christian teaching on sex.  (Orthodox, Catholic, and Protestant before the 1930s...)

I know "of" gay/homosexual (men) at my workplace and a few other places, but as I'm overall an extreme loner and not outgoing, I don't have any kind of relationship or acquaintance with any other.  Maybe a lesbian sister in the hometown I rarely visit; I said "maybe" going by what she said some years ago, but then it was new and I don't know if she stuck to it.

I often wish that "nurture" were more of a solid argument, but as much as I can be "convinced" without reading for or against, believe it to be definitely not.
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« Reply #53 on: May 05, 2012, 01:02:15 AM »

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Do people routinely approach you asking life-style recommendations?

Everyday.  Some days I have a dozen or so gays asking me how they should live.  I am so tired of all these homosexuals asking for advice that I don't even know what to do.
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« Reply #54 on: May 05, 2012, 01:17:18 AM »

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Do people routinely approach you asking life-style recommendations?

Everyday.  Some days I have a dozen or so gays asking me how they should live.  I am so tired of all these homosexuals asking for advice that I don't even know what to do.

When homosexual males approach me, it is not normally to ask for life advice.
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« Reply #55 on: May 05, 2012, 02:42:04 AM »

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Do people routinely approach you asking life-style recommendations?

Everyday.  Some days I have a dozen or so gays asking me how they should live.  I am so tired of all these homosexuals asking for advice that I don't even know what to do.

When homosexual males approach me, it is not normally to ask for life advice.

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« Reply #56 on: May 05, 2012, 12:06:57 PM »

Of course not Madrid. Madrid is full of Spanish people; they're all already a bunch of teenage girls.

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« Reply #57 on: May 08, 2012, 01:18:54 PM »

I have two homosexual family members, my brother and my only uncle.  The finer details of their private lives (or fine for that matter) are never really the subject of discussion at Thanksgiving and Christmas when we see each other, they are simply my brother and my uncle.  I would add that neither of them seem to act as if their personal sexual behavior or orientation is an identifier, and both seem to find the identity politics obnoxious.

Despite having been that close to the issue, there was a time in my life when I found homosexuality and the typically associated behaviors to be the most repugnant things in the universe.  I gained a different perspective after being a criminal investigator for several years and realized just how bizarre and repugnant the sexual activities of "straight" people can be as well.  I became convinced that "normal" was something that only exists in fiction, and my final conclusion is that many people of all stripes make sex "sinful" by placing undue importance on it in their lives. 

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« Reply #58 on: May 08, 2012, 03:00:19 PM »

I'm a heterosexual trapped in the body of a heterosexual.
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« Reply #59 on: May 08, 2012, 03:42:06 PM »

I'm a heterosexual trapped in the body of a heterosexual.

Trapped would usually imply that you are not happy with the situation...   Wink
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« Reply #60 on: May 08, 2012, 03:50:30 PM »

Im not gay, nor do I frankly give half a sausage about them either way.

However, what annoys me is the fake lisp and hyper-flamboyant BS act some put on as real. Leave the queer eye nonsense at home.

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« Reply #61 on: May 08, 2012, 03:57:51 PM »

Im not gay, nor do I frankly give half a sausage about them either way.

However, what annoys me is the fake lisp and hyper-flamboyant BS act some put on as real. Leave the queer eye nonsense at home.

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Ugh.  I really want to play off your "half-sausage" comment...but I don't want to get a green dot.   Cry
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« Reply #62 on: May 08, 2012, 04:07:25 PM »

Im not gay, nor do I frankly give half a sausage about them either way.

However, what annoys me is the fake lisp and hyper-flamboyant BS act some put on as real. Leave the queer eye nonsense at home.

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Ugh.  I really want to play off your "half-sausage" comment...but I don't want to get a green dot.   Cry
Sorry buddy, I saw the topic and could not help myself Smiley

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« Reply #63 on: May 08, 2012, 04:15:10 PM »

I have had gay housemates, gay co-workers, gay classmates, as well as gay friends and have never had any problem with them as individuals on account of their sexual orientation. It's none of my business, nor am I particularly interested. The fact that I believe sexual relationships should be reserved for a specific context does not mean I think badly about those who disagree with the Christian position, or who struggle with a particular passion. A traditional attitude to sex should not exclude love and pastoral sensitivity.
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« Reply #64 on: May 08, 2012, 04:26:47 PM »

I'm not a homosexual, but I play a thinly veiled one on my podcast.
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Im not gay, nor do I frankly give half a sausage about them either way.

However, what annoys me is the fake lisp and hyper-flamboyant BS act some put on as real. Leave the queer eye nonsense at home.

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Someone I highly respect said that the only interesting conservatives are those that are gay or something to that effect.
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« Reply #66 on: May 09, 2012, 08:47:59 AM »

Im not gay, nor do I frankly give half a sausage about them either way.

However, what annoys me is the fake lisp and hyper-flamboyant BS act some put on as real. Leave the queer eye nonsense at home.

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Someone I highly respect said that the only interesting conservatives are those that are gay or something to that effect.
Judging from your posts in the Politics section, I have no problem being uninteresting to folks you respect.

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« Reply #67 on: May 09, 2012, 09:13:03 AM »

Fear not! You cannot be fully Orthodox unless you have had the green dot. 

Im not gay, nor do I frankly give half a sausage about them either way.

However, what annoys me is the fake lisp and hyper-flamboyant BS act some put on as real. Leave the queer eye nonsense at home.

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Ugh.  I really want to play off your "half-sausage" comment...but I don't want to get a green dot.   Cry
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My sexual orientation is gay and always has been as long as I can remember. I can't remember a point in my life when I did not feel this way.  However, I am not sexually active now and haven't been for almost 10 years now. I never had any spiritual peace when I was active sexually.  I did not have much success with gay relationships either. For a while I was promiscuous and found that completely unfulfilling.  It made me feel cheap and used. Then I began a relationship with a nice guy and we stayed together for about 2 years.  However, during that whole time the amount of drama I had to endure was incredible. It simply drained me. Drama and petty jealousy about everything, accusations about being unfaithful (even though I never cheated on him) seemed to occur almost daily.  We did have periods where were got along well, but our relationship was an emotional roller coaster. I realize not all gay relationships are like that, but mine was.  I was Orthodox when this occurred and voluntarily abstained from the Eucharist for the entire period that I was in this gay relationship.  I knew my priest would not approve of it.  I still did attend Divine Liturgy on occassion and told no one at church about it, except my priest (and I did that privately.)  I did not expect or demand that my priest 'bless' my gay relationship.  I received and respectfully listened to his advice and counsel.  I told him that I was not ready to make decision about this at present.  I needed time and I took two years.  At the end of the two years, I found I really missed Church and receivign the Eucharist.  My partner did not share my Orthodox faith at all.  In fact, he had great disdain for it. Nearly all of the gay people I knew (with a few expections) were appalled and shocked at my respect for the Orthodox Church and for Christianity in general. They couldn't understand my attraction to the Church, to its feasts and fast, its music, its icons and its dogmatic teachings.  Many of them, including my partner, told me I should just dump the Church entirely and either become an atheist, an agnostic, a Unitarian or an Episcopalian.  Overtime I simply grew less and less satisfied with my gay relationship. So my partner and I amicably decided to end it.  He started dating again and when he found someone, he moved out.  That was almost 10 years ago and I have not seen him since.  I have been celibate since then and I am content with it.  At least my conscience is at peace now and I don't feel torn between living in a gay relationship and living an Orthodox life.  I think my life has become more peaceful, calmer and less materialistic now. I have not "magically changed" my sexual orientation.  I'm still gay. I am still attracted to men. But now that I have actually experienced a gay relationship, I don't miss all the drama and tension that accompanies it.   Part of me, deep down inside, always felt that I should resist those gay urges and not act on them, even when I was in a gay relationship. I never was 100% comfortable with it.

I am not deliriously happy now, but I am content and reasonably happy.  And that's enough.

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« Reply #70 on: May 09, 2012, 11:53:13 AM »

My sexual orientation is gay and always has been as long as I can remember. I can't remember a point in my life when I did not feel this way.  However, I am not sexually active now and haven't been for almost 10 years now. I never had any spiritual peace when I was active sexually.  I did not have much success with gay relationships either. For a while I was promiscuous and found that completely unfulfilling.  It made me feel cheap and used. Then I began a relationship with a nice guy and we stayed together for about 2 years.  However, during that whole time the amount of drama I had to endure was incredible. It simply drained me. Drama and petty jealousy about everything, accusations about being unfaithful (even though I never cheated on him) seemed to occur almost daily.  We did have periods where were got along well, but our relationship was an emotional roller coaster. I realize not all gay relationships are like that, but mine was.  I was Orthodox when this occurred and voluntarily abstained from the Eucharist for the entire period that I was in this gay relationship.  I knew my priest would not approve of it.  I still did attend Divine Liturgy on occassion and told no one at church about it, except my priest (and I did that privately.)  I did not expect or demand that my priest 'bless' my gay relationship.  I received and respectfully listened to his advice and counsel.  I told him that I was not ready to make decision about this at present.  I needed time and I took two years.  At the end of the two years, I found I really missed Church and receivign the Eucharist.  My partner did not share my Orthodox faith at all.  In fact, he had great disdain for it. Nearly all of the gay people I knew (with a few expections) were appalled and shocked at my respect for the Orthodox Church and for Christianity in general. They couldn't understand my attraction to the Church, to its feasts and fast, its music, its icons and its dogmatic teachings.  Many of them, including my partner, told me I should just dump the Church entirely and either become an atheist, an agnostic, a Unitarian or an Episcopalian.  Overtime I simply grew less and less satisfied with my gay relationship. So my partner and I amicably decided to end it.  He started dating again and when he found someone, he moved out.  That was almost 10 years ago and I have not seen him since.  I have been celibate since then and I am content with it.  At least my conscience is at peace now and I don't feel torn between living in a gay relationship and living an Orthodox life.  I think my life has become more peaceful, calmer and less materialistic now. I have not "magically changed" my sexual orientation.  I'm still gay. I am still attracted to men. But now that I have actually experienced a gay relationship, I don't miss all the drama and tension that accompanies it.   Part of me, deep down inside, always felt that I should resist those gay urges and not act on them, even when I was in a gay relationship. I never was 100% comfortable with it.

I am not deliriously happy now, but I am content and reasonably happy.  And that's enough.


Wow, thank you for that. It was very insightful. It takes a lot of willpower to do what you did. God bless you.

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« Reply #71 on: May 09, 2012, 12:12:57 PM »

I am not homophobic by any means. I am very close to many gay people, and have had many gay friends through the years (Albuquerque being considered one of the more "gay-friendly" towns in the country). That being said here are my observations about the gay (male) community:

1. Very clean and well dressed.
2. Very career driven
3. Lots and lots of low self-esteem
4. pronographic community (everything is sexualized)
5. shallow approach to life
6. Very very very unhappy/lonely people, that try to mask this unhappiness with lots of booze and partying.
7. Lots of drug use and alcoholism.
8. Radically post-modern view of the world
And for the record, this is not me being "homophobic". Gay friends have actually verbally confirmed my observations.
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« Reply #72 on: May 09, 2012, 12:33:46 PM »

I am not homophobic by any means. I am very close to many gay people, and have had many gay friends through the years (Albuquerque being considered one of the more "gay-friendly" towns in the country). That being said here are my observations about the gay (male) community:

1. Very clean and well dressed.
2. Very career driven
3. Lots and lots of low self-esteem
4. pronographic community (everything is sexualized)
5. shallow approach to life
6. Very very very unhappy/lonely people, that try to mask this unhappiness with lots of booze and partying.
7. Lots of drug use and alcoholism.
8. Radically post-modern view of the world
And for the record, this is not me being "homophobic". Gay friends have actually verbally confirmed my observations.
I know quite a few gay folks that more than 1 of your observations could be attached to easily.

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« Reply #73 on: May 09, 2012, 01:00:47 PM »

I am not homophobic by any means. I am very close to many gay people, and have had many gay friends through the years (Albuquerque being considered one of the more "gay-friendly" towns in the country). That being said here are my observations about the gay (male) community:

1. Very clean and well dressed.
2. Very career driven
3. Lots and lots of low self-esteem
4. pronographic community (everything is sexualized)
5. shallow approach to life
6. Very very very unhappy/lonely people, that try to mask this unhappiness with lots of booze and partying.
7. Lots of drug use and alcoholism.
8. Radically post-modern view of the world
And for the record, this is not me being "homophobic". Gay friends have actually verbally confirmed my observations.
I know quite a few gay folks that more than 1 of your observations could be attached to easily.

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And quite a few straights as well. So it's kinda meaningless. It says less about them yet it says way more about the prejudices of the 'observer" or whatever.
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« Reply #74 on: May 09, 2012, 01:02:34 PM »

I am not homophobic by any means. I am very close to many gay people, and have had many gay friends through the years (Albuquerque being considered one of the more "gay-friendly" towns in the country). That being said here are my observations about the gay (male) community:

1. Very clean and well dressed.
2. Very career driven
3. Lots and lots of low self-esteem
4. pronographic community (everything is sexualized)
5. shallow approach to life
6. Very very very unhappy/lonely people, that try to mask this unhappiness with lots of booze and partying.
7. Lots of drug use and alcoholism.
8. Radically post-modern view of the world
And for the record, this is not me being "homophobic". Gay friends have actually verbally confirmed my observations.
I know quite a few gay folks that more than 1 of your observations could be attached to easily.

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And quite a few straights as well. So it's kinda meaningless. It says less about them yet it says way more about the prejudices of the 'observer" or whatever.
Ha! If you only knew me. Yes, there are many straight people who live this way. But I would say that the ratio of gay people who live this way is higher than the ratio of straights.
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« Reply #75 on: May 09, 2012, 01:12:28 PM »

let's grant you that:it seems to me that you think that "virtuous behaviour" is exclusively nourished by the sacraments/reading the bible / Holy Spirit etc so that straight people would have more stable lives on average is just another proof of how righteous being straight is to begin with. you seem blind to the whole social, political and economic set-up that already makes it easier for a heterosexual to live a more stable life, sacraments or not.
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« Reply #76 on: May 09, 2012, 01:13:47 PM »

I am not homophobic by any means. I am very close to many gay people, and have had many gay friends through the years (Albuquerque being considered one of the more "gay-friendly" towns in the country). That being said here are my observations about the gay (male) community:

1. Very clean and well dressed.
2. Very career driven
3. Lots and lots of low self-esteem
4. pronographic community (everything is sexualized)
5. shallow approach to life
6. Very very very unhappy/lonely people, that try to mask this unhappiness with lots of booze and partying.
7. Lots of drug use and alcoholism.
8. Radically post-modern view of the world
And for the record, this is not me being "homophobic". Gay friends have actually verbally confirmed my observations.
I know quite a few gay folks that more than 1 of your observations could be attached to easily.

PP
And quite a few straights as well. So it's kinda meaningless. It says less about them yet it says way more about the prejudices of the 'observer" or whatever.
Ha! If you only knew me. Yes, there are many straight people who live this way. But I would say that the ratio of gay people who live this way is higher than the ratio of straights.


Many of these observations (particularly 3, 6, and7) could also be directly caused by being told from day one that you're a perverse POS who doesn't deserve to live on God's green earth simply because you're attracted to the same sex (b/c to many, having those feelings and actively engaging in them are one in the same).  When you're constantly told you're nothing, you tend to believe it.
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« Reply #77 on: May 09, 2012, 01:15:15 PM »

I am not homophobic by any means. I am very close to many gay people, and have had many gay friends through the years (Albuquerque being considered one of the more "gay-friendly" towns in the country). That being said here are my observations about the gay (male) community:

1. Very clean and well dressed.
2. Very career driven
3. Lots and lots of low self-esteem
4. pronographic community (everything is sexualized)
5. shallow approach to life
6. Very very very unhappy/lonely people, that try to mask this unhappiness with lots of booze and partying.
7. Lots of drug use and alcoholism.
8. Radically post-modern view of the world
And for the record, this is not me being "homophobic". Gay friends have actually verbally confirmed my observations.
I know quite a few gay folks that more than 1 of your observations could be attached to easily.

PP
And quite a few straights as well. So it's kinda meaningless. It says less about them yet it says way more about the prejudices of the 'observer" or whatever.
Ha! If you only knew me. Yes, there are many straight people who live this way. But I would say that the ratio of gay people who live this way is higher than the ratio of straights.


Many of these observations (particularly 3, 6, and7) could also be directly caused by being told from day one that you're a perverse POS who doesn't deserve to live on God's green earth simply because you're attracted to the same sex (b/c to many, having those feelings and actively engaging in them are one in the same).  When you're constantly told you're nothing, you tend to believe it.
That could very much be the case. If some one is constantly being picked on very being a "sissy" one will look for something to validate one's own worth.
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« Reply #78 on: May 09, 2012, 02:16:11 PM »

I am not homophobic by any means. I am very close to many gay people, and have had many gay friends through the years (Albuquerque being considered one of the more "gay-friendly" towns in the country). That being said here are my observations about the gay (male) community:

1. Very clean and well dressed.
2. Very career driven
3. Lots and lots of low self-esteem
4. pronographic community (everything is sexualized)
5. shallow approach to life
6. Very very very unhappy/lonely people, that try to mask this unhappiness with lots of booze and partying.
7. Lots of drug use and alcoholism.
8. Radically post-modern view of the world
And for the record, this is not me being "homophobic". Gay friends have actually verbally confirmed my observations.

Except for number 7 this fits all my Jewish Friends and Family.

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« Reply #79 on: May 09, 2012, 03:00:20 PM »

I think it's unfair to generalize across such a diverse group of people based on one common variable. Correlation does not necessarily imply causation, remember? I am not native to Albuquerque (nor do I know any openly gay people here), but back home in California I have several gay friends whom I am quite close to, and none of them seems more obviously damaged in the ways enumerated by Papist than any of my straight friends might be. I will say that there are certain aspects of gay culture or whatever you'd call it that definitely fit with that analysis, but those aspects are not part and parcel of what it means to be gay in toto, as far as I can tell from my gay friends' own observations (so, with basically the same strength of evidence as Papist has).
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« Reply #80 on: May 09, 2012, 03:02:11 PM »

I think it's unfair to generalize across such a diverse group of people based on one common variable. Correlation does not necessarily imply causation, remember? I am not native to Albuquerque (nor do I know any openly gay people here), but back home in California I have several gay friends whom I am quite close to, and none of them seems more obviously damaged in the ways enumerated by Papist than any of my straight friends might be. I will say that there are certain aspects of gay culture or whatever you'd call it that definitely fit with that analysis, but those aspects are not part and parcel of what it means to be gay in toto, as far as I can tell from my gay friends' own observations (so, with basically the same strength of evidence as Papist has).
I'm not saying that my observations cut accross all lines. What I am saying is that of the many gay people I have known, many exhibit most or all of the characteristics that I note above.
However, there is one gay friend that I can think of that seems happy and well adjusted.
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« Reply #81 on: May 10, 2012, 02:23:14 AM »

I am not homophobic by any means. I am very close to many gay people, and have had many gay friends through the years (Albuquerque being considered one of the more "gay-friendly" towns in the country). That being said here are my observations about the gay (male) community:

1. Very clean and well dressed.
2. Very career driven
3. Lots and lots of low self-esteem
4. pronographic community (everything is sexualized)
5. shallow approach to life
6. Very very very unhappy/lonely people, that try to mask this unhappiness with lots of booze and partying.
7. Lots of drug use and alcoholism.
8. Radically post-modern view of the world
And for the record, this is not me being "homophobic". Gay friends have actually verbally confirmed my observations.

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« Reply #82 on: May 10, 2012, 02:41:50 AM »

I am not homophobic by any means. I am very close to many gay people, and have had many gay friends through the years (Albuquerque being considered one of the more "gay-friendly" towns in the country). That being said here are my observations about the gay (male) community:

1. Very clean and well dressed.
2. Very career driven
3. Lots and lots of low self-esteem
4. pronographic community (everything is sexualized)
5. shallow approach to life
6. Very very very unhappy/lonely people, that try to mask this unhappiness with lots of booze and partying.
7. Lots of drug use and alcoholism.
8. Radically post-modern view of the world
And for the record, this is not me being "homophobic". Gay friends have actually verbally confirmed my observations.

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« Reply #83 on: May 10, 2012, 07:05:52 AM »

Im not gay, nor do I frankly give half a sausage about them either way.

However, what annoys me is the fake lisp and hyper-flamboyant BS act some put on as real. Leave the queer eye nonsense at home.

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« Reply #84 on: May 10, 2012, 11:18:38 AM »

Im not gay, nor do I frankly give half a sausage about them either way.

However, what annoys me is the fake lisp and hyper-flamboyant BS act some put on as real. Leave the queer eye nonsense at home.

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« Reply #85 on: May 10, 2012, 11:25:23 AM »

Im not gay, nor do I frankly give half a sausage about them either way.

However, what annoys me is the fake lisp and hyper-flamboyant BS act some put on as real. Leave the queer eye nonsense at home.

PP


I have a gay friend, veteran of Iraq, who once spent an entire evening ranting about this--something along the lines "if you weren't flaming before you came out of the closet, then why are you putting on the act now."
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« Reply #86 on: May 10, 2012, 11:56:51 AM »

I am not homophobic by any means. I am very close to many gay people, and have had many gay friends through the years (Albuquerque being considered one of the more "gay-friendly" towns in the country). That being said here are my observations about the gay (male) community:

1. Very clean and well dressed.
2. Very career driven
3. Lots and lots of low self-esteem
4. pronographic community (everything is sexualized)
5. shallow approach to life
6. Very very very unhappy/lonely people, that try to mask this unhappiness with lots of booze and partying.
7. Lots of drug use and alcoholism.
8. Radically post-modern view of the world
And for the record, this is not me being "homophobic". Gay friends have actually verbally confirmed my observations.

Whenever you must start off a comment with "I am not a bigot," you should already know you have a problem.
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« Reply #87 on: May 10, 2012, 08:31:12 PM »

How many folks on this board are actually, or have considered themselves to be gay or lesban? Or have close freinds or family members who are? It seems that plenty of folks here like to preach about what gay or lesbian people should do, what we feel, ow we were brought up etc etc... i wonder if anyone here9besides myself) has any actual RT experience with the subject, aside from reading about it or hearing sermons on the topic.

A close family member. Not that it really proves anything either way.
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