Victoria, I am sorry you are feeling so confused and torn.
Divorce is not "okay" within the Orthodox Church and is not recommended. There is no rule that states you can have 3 marriages (and divorces), etc. However, the Orthodox Church does believe in ecomonia. If the couple have grown to hate each other, and the marriage is beyond saving....there's no need for those two people to be in such close proximity to each other, as it does not lead them to salvation, but, to further sin. Even more so if children are involved. Divorce is NOT an easy option.
Remember, the RC has annullments. I find that even harder to understand. Correct me if I am wrong, but, I work with a number of RC women and in order to marry a 2nd or 3rd time, they had their marriages annulled. It cost them a lot of money, some time...and there you have it....like they were never married in the eyes of the Church. Never married? So, what of the children from those marriages? Are they considered illegitamate? After all, on the books, the parents were never married.
As for the Filioque, did anyone explain to you what they thought it meant in Latin? I only know it in English, and it doesn't state what I believe in English.
As for the squabbles....these are also in the RC. It's not strictly reserved to the Orthodox Churches. The Orthodox Church is One. The various jursidictions are just that. We are all brothers in one family and you know that families squabble amongst themselves....however, if anyone from the outside should cause any one of our brothers trouble, we are all there, as one, to defend them.
These are just adminitrative issues....not theological. Sometimes they are simly ethnic in nature. I belong to a Ukrainian Church....and I love it. I have no problem visiting any other Orthodox Church....but, when another Church decides to take over the one that my ancestors have fought to establish...then I have an issue. However, my issue is NOT with the Orthodox Church herself....but, with one of my brothers. Does that make sense?
Victoria, you will find many discrepencies in both and all faiths.
I would never tell you to "not get baptized" Orthodox, because I feel that you should be, as everyone else! The whole world should be Orthodox as far as I am concerned!
Just take a deep breath, and take it one step at a time.
Remember, it is God you are looking for. Look beyond the church buildings, and the people within them.