I am a bit weary of how often, as of late, I have been reading Orthodox Christians saying that we need to do or permit a bad situation (as a rule), because the alternative might be worse. Take just this example, for instance. If the Church permits every marriage that a member of the Church wants, on the grounds that otherwise they'll just go and sin with that person anyways, what message does that send? I think it sends a message that, firstly, marrying an Orthodox Christian isn't really that much better than marrying anyone else. I don't think that is accurate. I think that a marriage is meant to further your salvation; that is far more likely to happen with a fellow Orthodox Christian than with others, if for no other reason than the both of you may partake of the Body and Blood of the Lord. Secondly, I think it sends a message that you should be expected to go and have sex with someone even if the Church says no. The Church shouldn't routinely engage in economia just because someone will then disobey the Church if they do not. If the Church gives in every time someone will disobey her if she doesn't, then everyone will disobey her when they don't get their way, because they will see it as a means by which to get what they want. That brings me to my last point. How much can someone really care about the Church, really desire to be in it, if they will continue to have sex with someone because the Church won't let them marry that person? The Church doesn't sanctify masturbation just because a person hasn't found the person they want to marry, so why then should it have a rule of sanctifying marriages the Church doesn't really like the idea of, just because otherwise those involved will give in to sexual desires?
I guess I'm just a bit wearied by the idea that seems to have been growing for some time that the Church ought to start making use of economia the standard. The canons ought to be the standard. The Church's teaching ought to be the standard. Exceptions should be just that: a different application of the rule because of an exceptional circumstance, not because of a quite common circumstance.