I have heard charged leveled against RC by EO that RC over-emphasize the cross, and don't put enough emphasis on the incarnation and the resurrection. Is this a legitimate charge? I'd like to see both sides of the argument here.
I would say that, while my experience in RC churches is somewhat limited and haven't beeen inside one in a while, the homilies that I hear on any given sunday are more practical than theological, but this is just my experience. I will say that I remember going to a Christmas mass a few years ago and hearing the priest preach about how "we don't worship a book" placing emphasis on the person of Jesus Christ and the celebration of the Son of God being born as a man. I just looked briefly over the new Roman mass
, and don't see any diminishing of the importance of the incarnation (they bow when it's mentioned in the creed) or the resurrection (always mentioned with Christ's death in the Eucharistic prayers).
As for the Orthodox teaching, we don't speak of the incarnation apart from Christ's mission to heal us, which is completed in the resurrection, which is always mentioned with His death. Liturgically, there is no diminishing of the crucifixion. The only possible misunderstanding could be that we worship on the day of the resurrection, so our hymns for the resurrection are always being sung, but even they have lines like "...Who willed to be lifted up on the cross in the flesh, to endure death, and to raise the dead by His glorious resurrection".
As for protestants, depending on where you go, there are some who emphasize the cross to the point of diminishing the incarnation (as long as you believe in Jesus and not dogmas about Him) and the resurrection (you just have to believe that He died as punishment for your sins). But, what is said about some forms of Protestantism may not be necessarily true for all.