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Prayers for my marriage.
« on: December 21, 2011, 06:13:29 AM »
I can't even believe I'm posting this here.

I am in a daze.

My marriage is virtually over. I don't want to post details, but this has happened very abruptly. I am in shock. We will be trying to work it out, meet with Father over the next few weeks, but the prognosis does not look good at this point.

I can't even pray right now. I'm trying, but it's not going. Nothing except the Jesus Prayer. So if you could please lift up a prayer for me, my future plans, please do.

And pray for him. He needs help, and since I can't be the one to help him, I really hope God does.

Lord, have mercy!
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #1 on: December 21, 2011, 07:17:58 AM »
Lord, have mercy on your handmaiden Liora.
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #2 on: December 21, 2011, 07:31:01 AM »
Sending up prayers for you. 

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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #3 on: December 21, 2011, 07:36:55 AM »
Lord, have mercy!

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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #4 on: December 21, 2011, 07:40:12 AM »
It breaks my heart reading this.

Lord, have mercy! Lord, have mercy! Lord, have mercy! Bring healing, Lord, to your servants and grant them one mind and heart.

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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #5 on: December 21, 2011, 07:57:31 AM »
You are such a dear, Ismi. You're welcome to PM me if you want to. So sad to hear this.  :'( :'(
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« Reply #6 on: December 21, 2011, 08:30:12 AM »
Lord have mercy!
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #7 on: December 21, 2011, 08:35:55 AM »
"Lord have mercy, Kyrie Eleison, Lord have mercy."
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #8 on: December 21, 2011, 08:54:07 AM »
Lord have mercy,  Lord have mercy, Lord have mercy.
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #9 on: December 21, 2011, 09:09:10 AM »
Lord Have Mercy!

I have been where you are.  I don't know obviously the particulars of your situation, but I do know that marriage is a dance.  Complex, frustrating, almost never straightforward, and requiring an enormous amount of creativity.  My marriage was destroyed by a single heinous act and we had to start over.  The will was hardly there, the love was MIA. But there is always hope for a christian marriage, somehow through the grace of God we found a shred of it.  It has been an uphill battle but in the process God has taught us to be climbers.  Perhaps these words apply to your marriage or perhaps not.  I will offer a heartical prayer for you and your husband.  I wish I could offer better words for you, but of course the best ones have already been offered:

Lord Have mercy.


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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #10 on: December 21, 2011, 09:17:51 AM »
Lord, have mercy!
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #11 on: December 21, 2011, 09:17:58 AM »
Lord, have mercy!
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« Reply #12 on: December 21, 2011, 09:22:23 AM »
Lord have Mercy!

IsmiLiora, you are so creative and expressive....  Your posts are fun to read...  God will give you the strength to get through this, please don't doubt yourself or your self worth. 

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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #13 on: December 21, 2011, 09:40:15 AM »
Lord have mercy.

Most Holy Theotokos, pray for us.

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« Reply #14 on: December 21, 2011, 10:39:32 AM »
Lord, have mercy.

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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #15 on: December 21, 2011, 11:05:06 AM »
Lord have mercy.

Just remember, virtually over is not the same thing as really over--and in Christ anything can be healed.
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #16 on: December 21, 2011, 11:17:00 AM »
Lord have mercy on your servant.

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« Reply #17 on: December 21, 2011, 11:18:45 AM »
God be with you both. You're in my prayers

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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #18 on: December 21, 2011, 11:24:58 AM »

Ismi, I am so sorry to hear this.

Be strong.

May the Lord have mercy and grant you whatever is best for you.

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« Reply #19 on: December 21, 2011, 11:31:20 AM »
Lord, have mercy!

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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #20 on: December 21, 2011, 12:10:11 PM »
I'm really unhappy to read this. May God, by the prayers of His Mother and all the saints have mercy on you and your husband.

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« Reply #21 on: December 21, 2011, 12:15:23 PM »
Lord, have mercy!

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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #22 on: December 21, 2011, 12:33:12 PM »
Oh my goodness.  I am so sorry to read this.

May the good Lord have mercy on you and Mr. Ismi!
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #23 on: December 21, 2011, 12:41:06 PM »
Lord, have mercy!
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #24 on: December 21, 2011, 01:26:05 PM »
Lord, have mercy!

There is something about this period/length of a marriage that makes it extraordinarily perilous. May you both be able to work through the difficulties.

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« Reply #26 on: December 21, 2011, 01:28:30 PM »
O God, have mercy!
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #27 on: December 21, 2011, 02:06:56 PM »
Lord have mercy! :(

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« Reply #28 on: December 21, 2011, 02:16:15 PM »
So sorry to hear this!  :-[

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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #29 on: December 21, 2011, 04:20:57 PM »
In the struggle of marriage, there are times when things do seem hopeless. But I have learned that if you just cling to Christ, cling to the marriage, and cling to your spouse (even if your spouse does not seem to be clinging to you) then God can heal and strengthen your marriage over time. It can be very difficult when it seems like you are the only one trying, but just keep trying anyway. I truly believe that as long as both people desire to preserve the marriage, then no problem is too big to overcome. I'm glad to hear that you all are meeting with your Priest, and that would seem to indicate that both of you desire to work through things.

I didn't mean to give advice. Just wanted to offer you some words of hope and encouragement.


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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #30 on: December 21, 2011, 05:12:33 PM »
Oh Liora! *hugs*

Almighty God: Father, Son and Holy Spirit, through the intercession of the Most Holy Theotokos, forgive and have mercy on, your servants. Protect and defend their house that calls upon your Glorious Name, heal their infirmities and fill what is needed in their hearts and home, in this hour of their need. Amen.

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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #31 on: December 21, 2011, 05:18:22 PM »
 :(  Lord, have mercy!

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« Reply #32 on: December 21, 2011, 05:43:46 PM »
Lord, have mercy!

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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #33 on: December 21, 2011, 06:26:44 PM »
praying sister.
i would add that it doesn't need both people to cling to the marriage for it to continue.
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« Reply #34 on: December 21, 2011, 07:14:15 PM »
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« Reply #35 on: December 21, 2011, 07:23:14 PM »
 :'( Sorry to hear this. Praying for you both. Lord, have mercy.
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« Reply #36 on: December 21, 2011, 07:56:20 PM »
Lord have mercy on you sister!

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« Reply #37 on: December 21, 2011, 08:36:08 PM »
So sorry to hear it, and I will pray for you.
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #38 on: December 21, 2011, 09:31:15 PM »
Lord have mercy!  My thoughts and prayers are with you both.  I am so sorry to hear this. 

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« Reply #39 on: December 21, 2011, 11:23:12 PM »
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« Reply #40 on: December 21, 2011, 11:46:44 PM »
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Re: Prayers for my marriage.
« Reply #41 on: December 22, 2011, 12:09:25 AM »
Nuts, Liora.  This is the wrong time of year to have to go through something like this.  :'(

     Our bountiful God, we beseech Thee, listen to our humble prayer, that Mr. Ismi & Liora may ever feel that the married state is holy and that Mr. Ismi & Liora must keep it holy. Grant Thy grace that Mr. Ismi & Liora may never sin against the faithfulness and love of this marriage. Foster between them the spirit of understanding and of peace, that no strife, quarrel or misunderstanding, may arise between them. Grant them health and their daily bread, whereby they may serve Thee more. Amen.
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« Reply #42 on: December 22, 2011, 12:13:19 AM »
Lioria, is there a special Akathist or prayer we can continue to pray for you and your husband with?  You can PM me if you would like to insure privacy.

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« Reply #43 on: December 22, 2011, 02:08:25 AM »
Kyrie, eleison! Lord, you know my heart and why. Care for Ismi Liora and her husband in this time of need!

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« Reply #44 on: December 22, 2011, 03:55:04 AM »
Prayers for our dear sister and friend, Liora, that the Lord enlighten she and her husband as to the possibilities for reconciliation of their differences, that He afford them every opportunity to see past whatever circumstances have brought them to this point, and, if the situation is such that the rift cannot be healed, that He look with loving compassion on her and afford her the courage to deal with whatever may come to pass.

May our sister be strengthened against the pain that besets her through the heavenly intercession of the holy and blessed Monica, Model of Wifely Forbearance and may the Theotokos be constantly at her side in whatever trials beset her in the coming days.

Prayers also for Liora's husband, that he be enlightened as to sanctity of the vows they pledged at betrothal and afforded the strength to follow through and see those as worthy of whatever effort is required to maintain them.

As someone said, it's particularly heart-wrenching that you face such circumstances at this time of the year, which ought to be one of joy, in which we anticipate embracing and being embraced by loved ones and rejoicing with them at the coming celebration of Christ's birth. I pray that you can be strong in whatever you face and that, whatever comes to pass, you not allow it to color your future anticipation of the Nativity as being other than a beginning of the new life of faith with which Christ has blessed us.

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