That boy is now 5. I was told today that he is a sweet and perceptive boy. A woman at our parish was feeling very down, she was putting a brave face on, but was having a hard time. Little Ollie came up, took her hand gently in his own, and asked her why she was so sad. We are raising a sweet, perceptive and caring child. Spanking that boy for misbehaving at every turn would have pounded that quality out of him. Instead I used other methods, and we talked about why he was really misbehaving. Sure, he has been spanked on occasion. But my primary goal is to shepherd his heart, not corral his behavior.