This is my first post in this forum, sorry to start with such a weird thread.
Its one of those things that I never expected to happen in my life, yet it did.
My mother in law is a non practicing Christian Orthodox, that has been moving from one wrong relationship to the next, pretty much her whole life.
She had two failed marriages and now is at the point that she isn't looking to be married anymore, just dating guys... At 53.
We moved her down south from upstate NY to live close to us after she almost lost her house due to debt problems. While she lived for a while in our house she was dating like crazy instead of trying to start her life over, get a steady job etc. I don't blame her. I understand her insecurities. She had a hard life, she was abused as a kid, and in a way she is paying for the sins of her parents.
She left our house to live with a boyfriend aged 56 or so. Eventually we got to meet that boyfriend of hers, he seemed like a nice guy, probably nicer than any of her ex husbands. We got along just fine for a year, we even let our 3yr old daughter sleep at the boyfriend's house with her grandma for a few nights during this year.
Then a couple of weeks ago, she talked with my wife, and confessed that she really doesn't love that guy (which we've known for a while now) they are fighting a lot, and furthermore, that guy told her that in his past, he slept with his ex wife's sisters, and his step daughter (over 18 at the time).
That disturbing information was all I needed to hear, to simply say, we are cutting off any relationship with that guy. My wife explained that to her mother, but still I think she doesn't believe we really meant it. I guess she will figure it out by Christmas.
This guy says he is a changed man now, he is a "devout" Christian (born again or something like that) and this is a part of his crazy youth that doesn't apply to him anymore.
But if it ever comes to an argument about this matter, I'm ready to say, "this is where I draw the line".
If the guy slept with both his wife's sisters and her daughter even if it was close to 20 years ago, he was still close to 40. That is not "youth". At this age (in my opinion) someone is very mature and aware of his actions. And if he is rotten enough to do something like that, I doubt his demons will leave him alone at any age, no matter how old he is.
Now I don't judge him. I am responsible for my own soul, and that of my wife's and 3yr old daughter's, I have no excuse for judging others. That guy may be truthfully repenting for his sins.
But do I put my trust on his repentance with my daughter around him? No. Do I want him to be part of my family? No.I just can't do that no matter what. I don't even dare to think what is going though his head when my wife and daughter are around.
Someone would say, that the Christian thing would be to forgive everyone no matter what. However I have to protect my family.
Still, I wanted to hear what the public thinks of this. Sorry for the long post.