I mean no disrespect or offence to you Handmaiden, but this is my honest opinion (I hope those pesky things are still allowed on this forum):
Your boyfriend is not an "introvert". Your boyfriend is...an individual.
If you feel the need to file him into some broad psychological category for the purpose of getting advice from complete strangers (to both you and him) on how to understand him...then I think there is a much deeper problem with your relationship—a suggestion which I believe is reinforced by your remark concerning your fear of offending him should you raise your issues with him for discussion.
Clearly you are well-intentioned; your heart is in the right place. I'm sure there are many wonderful things about your relationship, and by suggesting there is a "deeper problem" I am only hoping that you re-consider your approach to dealing with this issue. (I also do not mean to sound like I'm "picking" on your relationship by suggesting there is a problem with it—what human relationship does NOT have problems?)
Talk to him Handmaiden. Just...talk to him...not as some standard example of some general psychological type...but as an individual...an individual you love and hope to understand better that you may both grow fruitfully in the love of the Lord.
Thank you. I appreciate the advice that you, and others, have given.
Please know that I don't expect a bunch of strangers on a forum to be able to tell me all there is to know about a man whom you've never met or interacted with. Jon's introverted tendencies are only one facet to his multi-facted personality.
However, it has been a great help, and a great reassurance to read everyone's postings. There are some things that people have written that are very similar to Jon, and some that are very different. Also, I know I am not doing a fair job of representing all that he is, and all that he means to me.
Although we have been together a year, there is still much to learn about one another. It's a process that I hope we will spend the rest of our lives accomplishing. The posts in this thread have given me a little insight as to how people with personalities different than my own, think.
This has been a help.
In a way, it's sort of been a support group. When you go to a support group, you hear about people who have circumstances similar to yours. Although they may not be the same, it is often reassuring to hear how others can empathize what you are going through.
This is what this thread has been for me.
It has reassured me that Jon's quiet tendencies are not because I am doing something wrong (I'm a woman, the first person I'm going to blame is myself in any given situation), but because he is just a quiet person. And that's okay.
Thanks again everyone, and please, I am open to any more advice anyone may offer.