I am still an inquirer into Orthodoxy, but know something about being in a "split" home. About two years ago my wife and I discussed my renewed and serious interest in Orthodoxy. I was presented with some strong ultimatums, ones that did not bode well for our future should I continue looking into Orthodoxy (let alone hope to be chrismated).
But with wise counsel from my priest, and fervent petitions to the Theotokos, my wife and I, and our one-year old daughter, are attending a local Antiochian parish exclusively. It has been a long journey--though not as long as others. I was ready to convert when I first encountered Orthodoxy about four years ago. But I have all along been convicted that God wanted our whole family to convert. So I hung tough, prayed, negotiated and re-negotiated with my wife. A month and a half after our daughter was born my wife just up and announced that she thought we all should go to the local parish I'd been attending as often as I could. She's found connections with the women, especially the other young mothers, and, if I am not mistaken, we may, by God's grace, be chrismated within the year.
But even so, I am not presuming anything. I'm simply trying to be patient, to pray daily, and to lead as clearly and loving as I can.
Pray for me, a sinner.