Let me briefly address the issue of judgment. First, as Orthodox men, we should be sympathetic and compassionate to the particular struggles, hardships, and choices that women face regarding sexuality and procreation. However, Orthodox women should be equally sympathentic and compassionate regarding the struggles, hardships, and choices that men face regarding sexuality and procreation. In our feminized society, even Christians have been led to believe that women face a heavier burden than men in regard to these matters. But consider this: men have NO say in whether or not their child is carried to term and given birth, but if their child is born then they are forced to pay child support. So, it seems to me that the compassion should extend both ways.
But most importantly, if we are going to invoke the Christian imperative "thou shalt not judge," then let us not judge the unborn child and condemn it to death. No one takes the "morning after pill" unless they think that conception may have occurred. Therefore, such an act is the moral equivalent of a premeditated abortion. If you see something moving in the woods, and you aren't sure if it's a deer or another hunter, do you shoot? No. You err on the side of preserving human life.
I agree that we should extend sympathy, understanding, and compassion to women that face such profound choices. But as difficult as these choices may be, they are nevertheless made by people who enjoy the privilege of Life themselves. Regardless of how much we may personally suffer, there is no justification for alleviating our own suffering by killing another innocent human being.