I'm glad you found some people who like to chat at coffee hour, and a priest who's attentive to your needs. I don't know a lot about anything, really (my favorite phrase is "I don't know a lot about..."), but I understand where you're coming from. My wife and I were going to a church where we're stationed, and the people at the parish were in their own community, which was very Russian as well, and I didn't expect them to just drop operations and turn their heads in my direction, and I'm sure you didn't either.
Still, it's hard to get on in a parish where you don't know too many people or the aren't into knowing new people. I remember joining the Army, and writing to my parish priest back home because I was really going through some intense experiences at that time. He never wrote back, so I never wrote again from basic training. He does email me back, however, if I have a serious question about something (even if it takes awhile). He referred my wife and I to a church that's further from here, but more akin to what we're used to at home. The priest there is great, and the parishioners are very friendly.
One thing I've wondered, now that we've been sort of "cut loose" is how the whole Spiritual Father thing works. As far as I know, he's still the same priest from back home, but I don't confess to him or ask him for advice, so I'm not sure if I have one anymore in the strictest sense of the term. But I may just have the wrong idea about it. In any case, thank God (Al hamd-il'-Allah!) for your husband's health!