well, that's good news then.
it took my ages to stop sitting with my legs crossed during the sermon, i was brought up to believe that crossing one's legs is polite and a little bit posh. i now realise this is not universal!
which church is it where i shouldn't fold my arms?
is it just european culture churches like in usa?
Yes. Once during Pascha week with the very long services my back was very sore and I crossed my leg. An old man went and yelled at a 'deacon' for allowing it, who promptly came and yelled at me. All this while our priest, who is Egyptian, commonly sits in the Sanctuary with his legs crossed. While most people are very accepting of people's cultural differences, there are always a few who feel it is their duty to correct the world to their way of thinking. This really bothers me. As Christians, shouldn't we strive not to be an offence to our brothers? In terms both of accommodating other cultures and what they consider rude, and also accepting other people's cultures and not imposing our norms on each other either way? I'm not going to leave the church no matter how much a few people want to case trouble over irrelevant things, but I see their own children and grand children, who are not culturally Egyptian since they were raised here, being offended, sometimes nearly to tears, over the stupidest of things by a very small minority. If we drive people out of the church for our culture, we'll surely be judged. Why can't we just accept one another in love?
When non-Christians are there for a wedding, you can tell very clearly if they have no respect for the church, and that disrespect is expressed through motions like crossing legs, slouching, chewing gum, looking disinterested. But you can also see sincere Orthodox Christians make these same motions with no disrespect in their hearts. Why do we all want to remake the Church in the image we have in our minds of how it should be, instead of allowing people with different cultures and practices to be an exercise to defeat our self will and accept our brothers in love? Sorry for the rant, not in any way directed at you, just this topic bothers me.