I grew up in an RC parish in the 80s (I'm 36). I went to Catholic school from 1st through 6th grade and continued with CCD until I graduated high school. I was an altar server (best one my parish ever had!) until I was in 9th grade. I saw all the liturgical abuses that were common during that era. I also saw a properly executed NO Mass, in Latin and in English.
The masses the OP is talking about are still the worst examples of the NO. It doesn't matter how prevalent they are. The priests who perform these liturgical abuses are in the wrong, period. They are misusing the freedom the Vatican gave them in the 1969 missal. The simple fact remains is that one cannot judge the NO until one sees the fruits of a properly celebrated Ordinary form Mass and how such a liturgical experience fostered (and continues to foster) the faith of those who take their "churching" seriously...and even those who don't.
The problem is not the NO, but the people who celebrate it in a poor manner.
There is a serious problem wiith the NO as it is based on the 1904 Lutheran Liturgy or similar Lutheran liturgy.
I had a copy of the 1904 Lutheran Hymnal and I carefully compared it to the NO. The words were almost the same except that the Lutheran Liturgy used thee, thou, and thine, and a few other expressions from that time frame (1904).
When I showed it to my Catholic Confessor (at that time), he tore up the Lutheran Hymnal and tossed it in the trash.
Then he never celebrated a NO again. From then on, the only liturgy he celebrated was the Traditional Latin Mass or the Byzantine Liturgy as he was biritual.