"And the Lord's servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will." 2 Timothy 2:24
Do the current attitudes of many in the Church line up with this passage when it comes to homosexuality? Yes, homosexual actions are a sin (I fail to see how being disposed to liking the same gender is a sin), but don't many of us attempt to normalize and rationalize our own sins?
Two men engage in actions between each other that dishonors their bodies and their image. Yet, the only "victims" in such a scenario are the two consenting adults.
Homosexuality is a disorder, not "being disposed to liking the same gender." In itself, the disorder is the result of fallen nature. Actual sin and guilt comes from acting on temptations.
Sin does not affect only the sinner. My sin affects the whole world negatively. By my sins, I contributed to the spread of iniquity, and cause others to stumble. There's also the issue of "two consenting adults," but I'll leave that alone.
I don't see how those who oppose "normalizing" homosexuality are being unkind. And, yes, that is the agenda--for society to embrace deviant behavior as normal and good and just "part of the rich tapestry of life." The Church has opposed this and other sins since the beginning since it is impossible to separate Orthodox dogma from Orthodox moral teaching.
There is definitely a lot that can and is being done to minister to homosexuals in an Orthodox manner, dealing with their sins in the same way as the Church deals with all other sins. In the holy canons, the penances for homosexual activity are not the heaviest of penances, and are actually lighter than those for married couples engaging in deviant activities. The Church heals this sin the same as all others--prayer, fasting, the holy sacraments, and the action of Christ.
We are not supposed to be agnostic about the existence of evil. Nor does it really help anything, when speaking of one evil to say, "Well, look at those evils over there." The issue of homosexuality is drawing attention because of the contention over it, not because there is an excess of gay-haters in Orthodoxy with too much time on their hands.
The Church has something to say about all sins. And, yes, some are worse than others for various reasons. This one is a focus of attention because of what is going on in the larger society and the several Orthodox Christians who, in advocating immorality, have become enemies of the Cross of Christ. They say the love homosexuals and want them to get married, but by this they show their hatred for them, for they push them into sin, rather than encouraging them to struggle against sin.