I would also like to point out something I thought would be obvious to anybody with some experience in the Church: that you have to be willing to live with some sort of hypocrisy in the concrete life of a parish. I mean there will always be a discrepancy between what it's written and what it's done. If you cannot live with that then your place isn't in the Orthodox Church, as this is the gear it has been running into for ever. The danger is-and I have seen it happen in real life- that culture war refugee type of converts will actively hunt homosexuals in their parishes, since they have a still skewed idea of how an Orthodox parish is run.
So your saying I, and other converts like me will inevitably go on a witch hunt for homosexuals?
I can't speak for others, but I know I definitely won't do that. As I said, I have a very close friend is an actively practicing homosexual, but I don't make any effort to "out" him. I have no desire to go on a witch hunt within the Church for homosexuals. But, if someone who is a homosexual, starts trying to change the Church, and starts trying to promote his own agenda contrary to the teachings of the Church, then yes, we need to step up, especially if these people are in positions of power.
Take this example... You are sitting in class, and all the sudden the teacher starts chastising people in the class for shooting rubber bands. You know you did it once, but you've stopped, and haven't done it for weeks, you even apologized to the teacher. So you know that she isn't addressing you, but rather the others who haven't stopped and who haven't apologized.
That is the same thing as this situation... For those who are homosexual, but who aren't living in that lifestyle, and who are quietly working out their salvation in the Church, they have absolutely nothing to worry about, and these speeches and bullet-points aren't directed towards them. Rather, they are directed to those who refuse to listen to the Church, and who refuse to repent. It is also directed towards those who, while not homosexual, are trying to teach that homosexuality is okay.