Ok so I've been thinking about this for awhile now, and since we live in the 21st century (whatever that means) I'm curious what exactly is the best way to find great women?
Has the search migrated to Facebook and these dating sites, or is more of the chance encounter in person at whatever venue, be it school, work, a bar, etc.
Also can someone clear up whether its a myth or not that if you want to find a nice woman to date and eventually marry you don't go to places like a bar to find them.'
EDIT: I just wanted to say Asteriktos' posts are a goldmine. Someone needs to publish them ASAP.
EDIT DOS: Do not assume I am even thinking about dating/relationships/whatever. I'm mildly curious about the above.
On finding women folk at the bar - I've never done it. I've heard that it's a great place for a one night stand, and know people who pulled off that coup, but that's not my modus operandi. If I wasn't on Xanax I'd do a bit of research and let you know, but I'm not supposed to mix it with alcohol.
Dating online - for all it's problems this has been the best method for me. Timing has a lot to do with whether or not you will have a relationship. If you meet a girl and she is not ready or interested at that moment, you've got little chance. At least with online dating you can assume that they are looking for a relationship. Also, if you are like me and have trouble meeting women, then this is as good a place as any to start.
Now that I have extolled the virtues of online dating, let me tell you about the crap. (Oh, and before I go on, my credentials - every date I have been on has been with someone I met online, with one exception, but she was really just a good friend going through a crappy break up and I was mostly going out with her to help her get her mind off of it. It never went anywhere after that. But other than that one instance, I have spent a lot of time wading through it and have a good idea as to what I am talking about.)
Basically, a wise man once referred to online dating as searching through a 50 gallon drum full of feces of varying viscosity trying to search for one small nugget of gold. (Oh, and that wise man was in fact me.) That's pretty much it. Most of the women on there, at least in my area, are stuck up b***hes with one glamorous photograph from when they were five years younger and forty pounds lighter and who wouldn't give any guy short of Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt a second look. And you know what, that's fine by me, because these ones are pretty easy to spot. (Pay special attention for the "duck lips". You know what I mean. Stay away from her. She's stuck up and likely has a venereal disease.)
The worst of the worst aside, it's really hard to get women to respond to you. Don't so any of that "winking" BS. I only do that if there is a girl who is sub par on the beauty side but seems like she has a good personality or at least is desperate. Then the wink is my way of saying, "if you put the effort into getting the ball rolling I'll probably respond, but there is no way in hell I'm going to get rejected by you". The best thing you can do is perfect your profile, in fact make two profiles, one as a man and one as a woman so you can use the female profile to look at your competition. About 90% of the women on dating sites are pretty shallow and/or vapid so as long as you don't include a photo, writing a female profile is pretty easy. But yes, perfect your profile, get a few decent photos of yourself (and you might either invest in a professional photographer or a friend with a decent camera because the reversed cell phone photos really aren't all that good). Then just wait. Every couple of years a woman might like your profile and send you an email. This is actually the only way I've ever gotten to the dating phase with a woman, is if she came to me first. Most of them, if you come to them they get a boost of pride and then get picky. If they are just spamming out email out of desperation, when you get back to them with a well thought out email, they tend to be more receptive.
If you want anymore online dating advice, I am always willing to help!