I have a new question for orthonorm (or anyone else): my girlfriend was over the other night and out of the blue she asked if she was fat. Well, she is a bit on the hefty side, so it was kinda awkward. But she's always talking about honesty and good communication and such, so I just--as gently as I could--explained that she could stand to lose a few pounds, and that if she wanted to come to the gym with me that'd be a great thing to do together. Well, that didn't go over so well. She started crying and mumbling something about how all I care about is thin girls with big boobs, which is silly since I just watch shows like project runway for the creative-competitive action, and yeah I watch women's volleyball and cheerleading and stuff, but that's just because I like ESPN. And I barely even look at those websites hardly at all now. Anyway, so she says that I just use her and will dump her when someone thinner comes along and all this other stuff. What do I say? What should I do? Maybe buy her a gym membership? They're having a biggest loser competition at the gym starting next month, should I secretly sign her up?