Ok, I need some relationship advice here. My pappy always said that if you can't feed the cow then don't milk it. When you first hear that it makes sense. But then you have to consider that if you don't milk it it ends up in pain, so really you are doing it a favor by milking it. And once you've milked it, well why feel guilty about it? The cow is happy, you're happy, it's all good. Ya know? But some people want to do me a harsh about this as though I'm taking advantage or something. What should I do? Oh, and if it matters, she's 29.