Good advice Schultz.
I was on the other end flinging insults, and I actually still regret it to a particular person. What could have been a fantastic lifelong friend ended up him moving out of state because of my arrogant smarmy ass. I was an awful person, maybe still am based on my thoughts.
Anyway turn the other cheek and really just laugh it off or play along with it. It's funny how that can defuse a situation so fast, who knows if you do that you might make friends with the enemy.
I couldnt disagree with you and Schultz more strongly.
When your with friends?? Sure, don't take yourself seriously and rise to every thing or you wont have any friendships left if you do because you will be too precious to be around. But there your friends and taking the p out of each other is normal and funny when your with friends haha...
People who are not your friends and just people you know or come across WAY WAY different. You have to take yourself seriously and respect yourself or you lie to yourself if you laugh at yourself in front of them. That might get you out of the situation but you wont respect yourself and you will end up bringing on a whole more heap of trouble because them type of people can see that your not strong enough to deal with it. I always go in hard when someone is in my face even if i loose, most of the time i don't. Like Ave Christe said that it can go on for the longest time if you don't deal with it full on and directly.
I would say the fact that I do not let the words of some random stranger who is trying to take the piss with me affect me in the slightest shows I have far more respect and security with myself than someone who gets their knickers in a twist because some random chav decided to call me a wanker or whatever. It's nothing more than chirping of crickets.
And I write this as a 36 year old man who spent the first half of his life as the proverbial 98 pound weakling but who managed to captain the high school swim team (and break a few old school records, to boot!), lead the honor society as its president, and graduate in the top 20 of my class of 453, and find time to engage myself in socio-political groups such as Food Not Bombs. By the time I hit college and moved away, I decided to reinvent myself as a tough guy and dealt with things the way you are describing, which only led to me being a four-letter word (take your pick) for quite some time. One of my good friends, who actually is the tough guy I was trying to be, once told me that he liked me better when I wasn't trying to be a hardcase and was the funny guy he knew I was. That stuck with me and, to this day, I let it be my guide.
Perhaps we just have different personalities where you have difficulty in understanding the power of self-deprecating humor. The ability to laugh at oneself in the face of ridiculous and baseless insults from mental midgets who can't piece together a cogent argument (or can't simply say, "I don't like you" and walk away) and have to resort to childish insults in order to bolster their own pithy self-worth is the most powerful tool I have at my disposal. And I've never
been told, "Man, what's wrong with you? Why'd you let that guy get away with calling you a #&$*?" but I've often been told, "Dude, I admire you. I would never be able to do what you just did but I wish I could."
THAT, my friend, is respect.