I thought about whether to address this situation or not. Since, moderation and experience have not changed the issue, nor my ignoring, I am going to make clear my position on what has been going on "between us" and using this thread specifically.
You can then take it with whatever size piece of salt that you want, as I will not address this issue again.
The reason I am doing so publicly rather than responding to your PMs is simply so that the mods can point out to me, if I am in error.
- I have yet to use a single ad hominem against you. In fact, I've not written a single disparaging word concerning you, if I have, please show me where and I will apologize for it.
And I think the ad hominem is at times legitimate, but the rules here are strict about it, so I avoid them.
What other possible reason could you have to point out the fact that i have made a tonne of ad homs and you havent other than to provide proof of your innocents ...which it doesnt. All it shows is the obvious, that you have more education than me and i lack the language skills you do in written form. The reason it don't prove your innocents is because you can be more subtle in your ability to flame a situation knowing that while i might be undereducated but i am bright, so i will pick up on your subtleties.
My post was a suggestion for someone on how to better use the board. It was not even directed toward you. And if joasia already knew the info, she and you are not the only ones reading this thread, so that info could be helpful to others.
Then you could easily post it in the technical area and post Joasia a link to it rather then sidetracking a thread with a BB code post
Addressing that post of mine, actually is closer to derailing the thread as it could provoke responses on just this matter. This will be my only post directed on this issue here, as not to derail it. And I will be commenting on a post within this thread probably after this.
-Asking me not to participate in threads you start or responding to your posts: You like to be direct, so direct I shall be, this ain't your sandbox.
I wasn't asking you not to address me directly in posts out of any obligation but out of courtesy because you and me don't get along and i think it is sensible for us not to respond directly TO each other. I have got no intrest in what you have to say on topics so its better that if you want to comment on my words you do it generally.
Its easy to do, comment generally, odd that you refuse isn't it.
If you were dealing with a matter of a personal nature that was delicate, I could see perhaps requesting only certain posters for advice, but then that would probably better handled via PMs. This is a discussion board open to all members who abide by the rules here, which I do. If I am not, I welcome the mods suggestions.
Im not saying you cant post anywhere you like, i am saying one small thing.... dont answer ME directly, posting TO me about what ive said as if we are in a discussion. Its best we dont talk directly TO each other. Interesting that you refuse to do this one thing isnt it even though you know it would help the situation you and me are in.
If not being able to control how threads develop bothers you, you will have a difficult time. That is just a statement of fact.
I dont mind how threads develop at all. Other people post all sorts of stuff on them and it don't bother me one bit. What i mind is you continually posting off topic on threads that i start. Your predictable, i start a thread and BAM a few posts in and you will make either a long post about something tangental or a short personal jab about me, like you did on this recent thread.
YOU said....."She" (meaning me) started this thread because of a "caustic" remark i made elsewhere
When i corrected you about that, and said i didn't, you replied further down the thread....
YOU said...."Since i started this thread...."
That is antagonistic and basically making me out a liar because your not accepting my words that i didn't start it for that reason. Subtle flaming and unnecessary comments from you knowing that i don't get along with you.
You're right, you don't ad hom but it is plain to see your not all innocent like you are trying to make out.
-Asking me politely: Not that asking politely would necessarily change my behavior, unless it were a personal matter, but you frankly have not. Your PMs are filled with insults
Not true, when i was here only one week
and you had already accused me of not typing English properly.... to which i told you i had dyslexia, then you critisized my post errors again after that.... and then and i flipped, yeah i did flip out. BUT i did PM you asking for us to sort this out in that same week.
You refused. You knew you had upset me about it, i was a visitor to the forums only here a week and you wouldn't sort it out with me. Weird huh??
I have not returned in kind, nor even responded to your PMs. Adding the word polite or please does not a polite request make.
Yeah and saying you dont ad hom does not a innocent person make either
-Flaming the situation: The only one who seems distressed by my passing comments is you.
Yep, comments that either constantly try to derail my threads or when you quote me trying to talk to ME directly knowing how volatile the situation is between us.
On my end there is truly no animus toward you.
Good if thats the case you will be kind enough not to try and talk to ME directly in threads then.
This is how I post here. Some people don't like my voice at times, fine. But I've rarely come close to being insulting toward a person here.
Yeah i'd be able to avoid it too if i had your subtle skill with words
Sometimes I can see how my irony gets lost and can be taken the wrong way and I always address it, when it has been.
No you don't that's a lie. You just finished saying how you had been ignoring my requests to sort this out weeks ago. Make up your mind. Here's your quote "Since, moderation and experience have not changed the issue, nor my ignoring
In short, if I have written a direct and explicit attack on your person, I apologize.
IF??? That is no apolagy. That doesn't own to anything. Several people have told me when i have stepped over the line and i have apolagised to them, im good at it, i have had a tonne of practice. It goes something like this.
"I'm sorry" FULL STOP.... no ifs... no buts.... no justifying
Now I believe you will initially be angry with this,
Why would you believe that?? I can see this for what it is and its nothing more then i expected from you.
but I hope you consider my words and try to put this behind us,
That will be easy if you agree to stop addressing me personally in threads. I doubt you will stop though.
Forgive me, if I have written abusive comments toward you.
There is absolutely no problem on my end.
Yeah so you keep saying
Most of all, I hope that you do leave over my participation, that woud be truly regrettable.
As my granma used to say "truth will out