The parable of the wedding feast is an excellent illustration of how election is made.
This contradicts that idea:
5 deliver such a one to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus. (1Co 5:5 NKJ)
This person dies for his sin, but his spirit is saved in the day of the Lord Jesus:
12 And I saw the dead, small and great, standing before God, and books were opened. And another book was opened, which is the Book of Life. And the dead were judged according to their works, by the things which were written in the books.
13 The sea gave up the dead who were in it, and Death and Hades delivered up the dead who were in them. And they were judged, each one according to his works.
14 Then Death and Hades were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death.
15 And anyone not found written in the Book of Life was cast into the lake of fire.
(Rev 20:12-1 NKJ)
This book of life has the names of God's chosen was written from the foundation of the world:
...whose names are not written in the Book of Life from the foundation of the world... (Rev 17:8 NKJ)
All who rise up from hades, in the day of the LORD Jesus, whose names are in the book of life, are NOT cast into the lake of fire.
So their oil lamps were not burning when Christ returned, and they ended up in hades, waiting for the 1000 reign of Christ to end, and the resurrection of all who ever lived, begin.
There are many of God's Elect, who aren't ready when Christ returns, and were not ready when they died...these go to hell upon death, and in torments, they can reflect upon their sin and repent:
6 For this reason the gospel was preached also to those who are dead, that they might be judged according to men in the flesh, but live according to God in the spirit. (1Pe 4:6 NKJ)
For example, the Pharisee who died was a child of Abraham, an Israelite, one of those Paul says won't be cast off, even though they must go through hell first:
25 For I do not desire, brethren, that you should be ignorant of this mystery, lest you should be wise in your own opinion, that blindness in part has happened to Israel until the fullness of the Gentiles has come in.
26 And so all Israel will be saved, as it is written: "The Deliverer will come out of Zion, And He will turn away ungodliness from Jacob;
27 For this is My covenant with them, When I take away their sins."
28 Concerning the gospel they are enemies for your sake, but concerning the election they are beloved for the sake of the fathers.
29 For the gifts and the calling of God are irrevocable.
30 For as you were once disobedient to God, yet have now obtained mercy through their disobedience,
31 even so these also have now been disobedient, that through the mercy shown you they also may obtain mercy.
32 For God has committed them all to disobedience, that He might have mercy on all.
33 Oh, the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are His judgments and His ways past finding out! (Rom 11:25-33 NKJ)
Although elect of God, he died a sinner, and God will by no means allow a sinner not pay for His sin...without the ransom propitiation of Christ, wickedness will be avenged:
24 And he cried and said, Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus, that he may dip the tip of his finger in water, and cool my tongue; for I am tormented in this flame.
25 But Abraham said, Son, remember that thou in thy lifetime receivedst thy good things, and likewise Lazarus evil things: but now he is comforted, and thou art tormented.
26 And beside all this, between us and you there is a great gulf fixed: so that they which would pass from hence to you cannot; neither can they pass to us, that would come from thence.
(Luk 16:24-26 KJV)
This Pharisee learned too late he wasn’t saved. That he was a child of God is clear from Abraham’s calling him that. Also, children of God would not feel such sympathy for a child of the devil, being they rejected God willfully, and did evil by choice.
More proof this “rich man” was a repentant sinner in hell is evident by his concern for others, that they also not end up in hell with him (Lu 16:27ff). Only a child of God, when his cry for help was turned down, would think of others…a child of the devil would have begun cursing.
But those in hell, even if Christ were to return tomorrow, must wait till AFTER His thousand year reign on earth, for the General Resurrection (Rev 20:7).
So its much better to be saved by grace through faith now in this life, than after paying for your earthly sins in hell, for centuries.
This is why it is written:
9 After these things I looked, and behold, a great multitude which
no one could number, of all nations, tribes, peoples, and tongues, standing before the throne and before the Lamb, clothed with white robes, with palm branches in their hands,
10 and crying out with a loud voice, saying, "Salvation belongs to our God who sits on the throne, and to the Lamb!"
(Rev 7:9-11 NKJ)
There is a remnant of Jews and Gentiles who believe in Christ now, it does not follow none of them won't repent in hell, and be raised up into life. It will be impossible to count all the people the Lamb of God saved:
2 And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the whole world. (1Jo 2:2 NKJ)
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For God has committed them all to disobedience, that He might have mercy on all. 33 Oh, the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are His judgments and His ways past finding out!
34 "For who has known the mind of the LORD? Or who has become His counselor?"
35 "Or who has first given to Him And it shall be repaid to him?"
36 For of Him and through Him and to Him are all things, to whom be glory forever. Amen.
(Rom 11:32-1 NKJ)
20 He who testifies to these things says, "Surely I am coming quickly." Amen. Even so, come, Lord Jesus! (Rev 22:20 NKJ)