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« on: May 22, 2011, 10:45:16 PM »

Did you talk to your parents about your conversion before you converted?
Did you live with them at the time?
How old were you at the time?
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« Reply #1 on: May 22, 2011, 10:50:50 PM »

Yes, I talked to them. It was scary for me at the time, but they turned out to be approving.   Smiley
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« Reply #2 on: May 23, 2011, 01:16:29 AM »

Did you talk to your parents about your conversion before you converted?
I sent them an email that said my children would be baptized and my wife and I would likewise be received in two weeks, and they were welcome but not obligated to come. They already knew where my family had been attending church for some time, though we never had a serious conversation about it.

In fact, to this day the only one to ask me a serious question about it is my brother who is 13 years younger... But then again, one of my wife's grandmothers once asked us something along the lines of "Do they preach the Gospel at your church?"
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« Reply #3 on: May 23, 2011, 01:39:57 AM »

I'm not yet a convert, or even a catechuman, but I thought I'd jump in.  I am 17, and a few weeks ago announced to my mom that I intended to join the Orthodox Church.  That was exceptionally nerveracking for me, but turned out ok.  After that I slowly got the word around to everyone in my house (grandma, two sisters, and step dad) and have told some other people via the internet.  Those were all extremely less nerveracking. 
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« Reply #4 on: May 23, 2011, 03:06:29 AM »

I never announced about converting but my gradual interest in it was shared.  My parents were happy to see me attending church regularly after many years of not even going for easter.

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« Reply #5 on: May 23, 2011, 12:07:25 PM »

I told my parents it was going to happen (and they came to the confirmation service) but it was something I ever really discussed with them beforehand.
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« Reply #6 on: May 23, 2011, 12:56:35 PM »

I haven't lived with my parents in some time but we are very close so it became somewhat of an ordeal. The friction really came in how I delivered the news to them though. I tried to explain it to them the way that I learned it and it became clear to me. That of course leaves no room for where someone else is at or how they'll connect it unfortunately. But basically my parents saw it as a reproach on them and were very offended and thought I was telling them that they now were going to hell. Now after many long conversations and my patience being tried more than I ever imagined, they are starting to see that I really am looking for Christ and their interest is even a little peaked. Their interest may not even be in Orthodoxy but they are thinking about their spirituality more which is good.

My only advice which isn't worth anything: Even though I'm sure you're excited and you wanna tell everyone everything that you learn, patience and baby steps are so valuable. Don't try to give meat to those who need soft food. Start with love and understanding in all your dealings.
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« Reply #7 on: May 23, 2011, 06:35:57 PM »

Yes, No, in my early 30's.
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« Reply #8 on: May 23, 2011, 07:48:59 PM »

I'm 16 right now and I expressed my interest to my parents about a year ago. They weren't happy about it for a long time but at this point they give me rides to Liturgy on Sundays.
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« Reply #9 on: May 23, 2011, 08:29:44 PM »

No, I didn't tell my parents, as they were both dead by that time.  I was 44 when I was received into the Orthodox Church.  My father had died almost 2 years earlier, and my mother had died 12 years earlier.  I think they would have been happy for me because they could tell that I was a lot happier.  I did dread telling one of my brothers.  He is a pretty staunch Baptist, while my other brother is an athiest and could care less what I am.  My brother that is a Baptist and my sister-in-law were great about it--they could tell that I was much happier.  It was important for my brothers to be okay with it, as they are the only members of my immediate family that I have left. 
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« Reply #10 on: May 23, 2011, 09:23:16 PM »

I told my parents and I invited them to my baptism.  I told them I had no expectation either way, but if they could make it and wanted to be there it would be cool.  They live 200 miles away and it was during harvest season so I was not surprised when they said they wouldn't be there.  I don't think there is an issue there, but my parents are pretty non-confrontational.  A friend of mine from high school converted a number of years ago and my mother was pretty worried about that at the time and said some silly things so sometimes I wonder...  I think she is mostly ok with it, but she is a pretty staunch baptist.  Anyways, I was 31 when I converted. 
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« Reply #11 on: May 23, 2011, 10:28:00 PM »

1. Yes. Sometimes I think I talked to them too much, as to be overbearing, but they were glad to see me so passionate about Church. They attended a few services as well as my chrismation, and have always been supportive. (Whatever you do, don't get into deep discussions or debates unless they start the conversation. And stop talking when it's clear that they're done, if a conversation does come up.)

2. Yes.

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« Reply #12 on: May 24, 2011, 01:04:53 AM »

1. Yes.  They were extremely surprised a child of my generation would become something "traditional"; they're both lapsed traditional Catholics. My dad naturally assumed I had been identifying more with Buddhism.

2. Yes.

3. 19 years old.

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« Reply #13 on: May 26, 2011, 05:51:37 AM »

Did you talk to your parents about your conversion before you converted?
Did you live with them at the time?
How old were you at the time?
No, but this is mostly because we were/are living thousands of miles away form one another, and I thought trying to skype that conversation might be awkward. What's more, they are, at best, indifferent to religion.
No, I did not live with them.
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« Reply #14 on: May 26, 2011, 06:43:23 AM »


I did talk to my parents, and they were supportive.  They aren't overtly religious Catholics, and my father especially has a great interest in Buddhism and Hinduism.  Haven't lived with them for a few years now, they are a few hundred km away from where I am now.  I was in my 20's when I converted. 
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« Reply #15 on: May 27, 2011, 09:26:48 PM »

I have yet to begin the conversion process on any formal level and that may or may not be a while coming, but I did finally let my little secret out to my parents. My mother is supportive, my dad just asked why, after all I went through to become Roman Catholic. I'm 17 and still living at home.
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« Reply #16 on: May 27, 2011, 11:12:19 PM »

Didn't talk to my parents about it until well into attending an Orthodox Church (I was a catechumen after six months, and chrismated a year after that). Things are well...strained. And I live several states away.

My parents took it pretty badly. I was raised RC and they still are (mom was a convert due to a high school friend). They had no issues with me becoming Episcopalian (I think because my mom had a grammar school classmate whose dad was an Episcopal clergyman), but Orthodox? I was consciously throwing over the Pope!

Things were strained with my parents for YEARS before I told them I was becoming Orthodox, so this didn't make much difference.

I was early 30s at the time, single.
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« Reply #17 on: May 27, 2011, 11:54:41 PM »

Yes I did I had both my parents permission (their divorced) before I became a catechumen. that being said I still had problems with my Grandma.
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« Reply #18 on: May 28, 2011, 08:24:54 AM »

i sort of mentioned to them that i was going to the orthodox church and got the usual 'yes, dear. now did you hear about...' and 'moving onto other topics' reply.
after i became orthodox i got (and still get) the usual worries about whether i had become muslim (we speak arabic, so must be similar to muslims... groan!). no-one else is orthodox, so i have passed from the category of 'weird' (why else would i study arabic if i wasn't weird) to 'worryingly weird'.
i was in my '30s so didn't live with them for a long time.
basically they try to be polite about it, and occasionally we have good chats, but mostly i feel like i have some kind of embarassing problem. as for fasting... hmm, maybe best not go there...  Undecided

maybe i am oversensitive and should not have expected them to be very happy and then seek out their local orthodox church!

william, i am pleased to hear you get lifts to liturgy, that's lovely, praise God.

james rottnek, i hope your family continue to be ok with it.
take cb gardner's advice and take it step by step. i think the hardest thing is when we are very happy at a new discovery only to find that others are quite sure we have gone mad and so we can't really share it with them. so take things slowly  Smiley
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« Reply #19 on: May 28, 2011, 10:09:25 AM »

My father's question was "Is that the group that goes around mutilating squirrels?"
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« Reply #20 on: May 28, 2011, 10:12:43 AM »

Didn't talk to my parents about it until well into attending an Orthodox Church (I was a catechumen after six months, and chrismated a year after that). Things are well...strained. And I live several states away.

My parents took it pretty badly. I was raised RC and they still are (mom was a convert due to a high school friend). They had no issues with me becoming Episcopalian (I think because my mom had a grammar school classmate whose dad was an Episcopal clergyman), but Orthodox? I was consciously throwing over the Pope!

Curious that they felt that way.

So, just to clarify, do you mean that you first converted from Catholicism to Episcopalianism, and later converted to Orthodoxy? Or that you thought about converting to Episcopalianism but instead converted to Orthodoxy?
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« Reply #21 on: May 28, 2011, 04:21:38 PM »

My father's question was "Is that the group that goes around mutilating squirrels?"
How odd... I wonder how that came to be.
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« Reply #22 on: May 28, 2011, 05:06:25 PM »

yes, i also want to know!
anastasia, what is your story? were you born into an orthodox family? or was that protestant pakhlava you were eating?!
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« Reply #23 on: May 28, 2011, 05:21:42 PM »

Did you talk to your parents about your conversion before you converted?
Did you live with them at the time?
How old were you at the time?

Yes, I told them both soon after I returned from Iraq. My father (baptist background, but his family used to be RC before he was born IIRC, my brother will correct me on this if I am wrong) didn't really care as he was interested in going to some EO churches when we lived in Chicago but never did, though he does (in his typical fashion) try to make his particular form of Protestantism "seem" holier than my form of "idol worshipping paganism" even though he knows such is not the case (you have to know him to understand his sense of humor)  Roll Eyes.
My mother (baptist background as her father was a baptist preacher, don't know what she considers herself now) just told me my brother was also thinking of converting and I should talk to him. She also said the Orthodox Church was too iconographic for her, but looking at her house you would never guess  Cheesy. I did sometimes get the feeling that she didn't think too highly of the EO Church but she was more than happy to attend a Vespers service or an evening Liturgy with my brother and I when she could...

No, I had moved out of my mom's place right after I finished my army training abt 6 years ago.

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« Reply #24 on: May 28, 2011, 06:05:35 PM »

My father (baptist background, but his family used to be RC before he was born IIRC, my brother will correct me on this if I am wrong) didn't really care as he was interested in going to some EO churches when we lived in Chicago but never did, though he does (in his typical fashion) try to make his particular form of Protestantism "seem" holier than my form of "idol worshipping paganism" even though he knows such is not the case (you have to know him to understand his sense of humor)  Roll Eyes.

Grandma and Grandpa were Roman Catholic growing up, I'm not sure if they converted before or after Dad was born. 

Dad did attend a church in the Ukranian Village for a service or two right after he moved to Chicago (his voice activation on his cell phone screwed up and called the house phone in Florida while he was there and wouldn't hang up), but I don't know if it was an actual Orthodox Church or Ukranian Catholic (my guess would be Catholic as that was the church closest to his apartment) and Dad didn't know there was a difference.

He did end up going with me to this past Christmas Eve Compline service at an OCA parish and has had a bug up his butt ever since over "you guys pray to Mary".  I guess I should have taken him to the Greek cathedral for that one- as long as it was in another language he never would have known!
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« Reply #25 on: May 28, 2011, 06:11:09 PM »

Well then, I have explained that to him before, and he never seemed to have a problem with praying to the saints. Oh, well.
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« Reply #26 on: May 28, 2011, 07:46:23 PM »

Did you talk to your parents about your conversion before you converted?

They found out when I invited them to my Chrismation.

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« Reply #27 on: May 28, 2011, 08:28:59 PM »

My father's question was "Is that the group that goes around mutilating squirrels?"
How odd... I wonder how that came to be.

Well, you had to know him.

This video clip will give you some idea: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ITY4eTUYups&feature=related
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« Reply #28 on: May 28, 2011, 09:25:04 PM »

yes, i also want to know!
anastasia, what is your story? were you born into an orthodox family? or was that protestant pakhlava you were eating?!
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« Reply #29 on: May 28, 2011, 09:52:39 PM »

I did.  It went well -- we went through the same when we converted to Lutheran (from Baptist), so they weren't too shocked.  They knew the Lutheran Church we were attending wasn't as liturgical and traditional as the one we came from, so it was probably somewhat expected. 

We did not live with them at the time, and I was 40 at the time.
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« Reply #30 on: May 30, 2011, 11:03:40 AM »

Didn't talk to my parents about it until well into attending an Orthodox Church (I was a catechumen after six months, and chrismated a year after that). Things are well...strained. And I live several states away.

My parents took it pretty badly. I was raised RC and they still are (mom was a convert due to a high school friend). They had no issues with me becoming Episcopalian (I think because my mom had a grammar school classmate whose dad was an Episcopal clergyman), but Orthodox? I was consciously throwing over the Pope!

Curious that they felt that way.

So, just to clarify, do you mean that you first converted from Catholicism to Episcopalianism, and later converted to Orthodoxy? Or that you thought about converting to Episcopalianism but instead converted to Orthodoxy?

I went from Catholic, lapsed 10 years after graduation from Catholic high school, Episcopalian for five years, and then found Orthodoxy through an acquaintance.
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« Reply #31 on: May 30, 2011, 03:42:22 PM »

so i guess your parents were like 'george's' parents in the seinfield comedy clip peter j quoted.
i had to laugh at that clip, it shows really well how people can over-react without even knowing what it is they hate and why.

i think we just need to keep working at having some kind of relationship with them, the best we can, and show them God's love.
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« Reply #32 on: June 01, 2011, 04:53:42 PM »

oh and I lived with my mom at the time not my dad and I was 15
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