Most cases in which divorce is an issue rarely do not involve adultery -¬ whether it be a case of giving oneself over to another person, or to another thing, such as alcohol, drugs, work, etc. One can surely put their spouse in a secondary position as a result of becoming infatuated, obsessed and/or controlled with/by another person; one can also surely put their spouse in a secondary position as a result of becoming infatuated, obsessed and/or controlled with/by power, wealth, addictions, careers, etc.
In accordance with Church Canon Law, an Ecclesiastical Divorce is granted only under certain circumstances . A review of guidance from the various jurisdictions in the United States indicate the following as valid reasons to grant an ecclesiastical divorce:
1. When a marriage is entered into by force, blackmail or false reasons.
2. When one or both parties is guilty of adultery.
3. When one party is proven to be mad, insane or suffers from a social disease which was not disclosed to the spouse prior to the marriage.
4. When one party has physically assaulted the spouse or conspired against the life of the spouse.
5. When one party is imprisoned for more than seven years.
6. When one party abandons the other for more than three years without approval.
7. When one partner should be absent from home without the other's approval, except in in stances when the latter is assured that such absence is due to psycho-neurotic illness.
8. When one partner forces the other to engage in illicit affairs with others.
9. When one partner does not fulfill the responsibilities of marriage, or when it is medically proven that one party is physically impotent or as the result of a social venereal disease.
10. When one partner is an addict, thereby creating undue economic hardship.
There is one other reason, a Holy one, for granting an ecclesiastical divorce, when a couple chooses to separate due to love of the Lord and their desire to mutually enter into the angelic life of the monastic. This reason is used when a married clergy is called to become a Bishop and must set aside his wife. In this case, both must willingly enter the angelic life.