Do you really think most Orthodox spend the amount of time people here dicing up the subjects we do?
I agree that there are good imperatives for us to realise that other Orthodox are not as zealous for the "minutiae" of the faith as we are.
Conversely, though, I can assure you, from my experience of cradle Orthodoxy, that many of those who call themselves Orthodox are so far removed from the faith that, really, it doesn't even make sense to call them Orthodox (or perhaps even Christian).
Some of the blatantly inane and stupid things I have heard said by members of my own cradle Orthodox family include:
1. Isn't that bread the priest gives you at the end of the "mass" the communion?
2. We're exactly the same as the Catholics except that we don't believe in the Pope.
3. I don't think I need to read the scriptures or attend Church, as long as I live "a good life".
4. I don't see why my child who was baptised Catholic can't take communion in the Orthodox Church.
5. Jesus was special but not God in the flesh.
6. I refuse to kiss the priest's hand.
7. Icons are idols.
8. Why can't Church be like those African-American Churches in America with the dancing and cartwheeling?
&c., &c., &c.
There comes a point where we are not professing different points of view, but different faiths. Which is fine. I don't begrudge people the right to believe whatever they want -- just don't call it Orthodox Christianity.
Calling monasticism "unnatural" smacks of secular thinking. Our whole moral system, which is based on restraint and proper direction of our energies, is unnatural, by secular standards. While I would hesitate to condemn another Christian for feeling uncomfortable about the practice of monasticism (it is, after all, a challenging practice), I don't think it's wrong to suggest that the person is perhaps yet to develop an Orthodox phronema. Who knows, though -- the person might even have good scriptural and patristic authority for his position and I should keep my mind open.