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Offline Tikhon.of.Colorado

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God-family
« on: May 03, 2011, 09:19:58 PM »
so, I have a godfather and a Godmother who I love very much.  are my godparent's other godchildren my godsiblings?  are their godparents my god-grandparents?

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Re: God-family
« Reply #1 on: May 03, 2011, 09:45:50 PM »
You can't marry the immediate relatives of your God parents, so as far as that goes they are god-relatives, but generally speaking a God-parent is there for direction. I suppose members of their family can help direct you, but I don't think there is an official position.

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Re: God-family
« Reply #2 on: May 03, 2011, 10:48:02 PM »

As a godparent of four, it has been explained to me that not only am I to give "direction", but, I will answer before God, if my godchildren do not grow into good Orthodox Christians.  Apparently, I have a bigger responsibility than their biological mother, in raising them Orthodox.

It's an awesome responsibility, and often leaves me rather concerned and worried....because it's harder and harder to raise kids Orthodox in such an anti-Christian (yes, I mean anti) environment.   

As to your question Trevor, I can never marry any of the god-fathers, nor any of my godchildren. 

I think you only "answer" to your godparents....and not to any of their relatives or other godchildren of theirs.

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Re: God-family
« Reply #3 on: May 03, 2011, 10:50:48 PM »

As a godparent of four, it has been explained to me that not only am I to give "direction", but, I will answer before God, if my godchildren do not grow into good Orthodox Christians.  Apparently, I have a bigger responsibility than their biological mother, in raising them Orthodox.

It's an awesome responsibility, and often leaves me rather concerned and worried....because it's harder and harder to raise kids Orthodox in such an anti-Christian (yes, I mean anti) environment.   

As to your question Trevor, I can never marry any of the god-fathers, nor any of my godchildren. 

I think you only "answer" to your godparents....and not to any of their relatives or other godchildren of theirs.



interesting.  thanks, Liza!  I totally agree about being in an anti-Christian environment.  they'll need all of the prayer and guidance they can get, especially once they hit high school!

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Re: God-family
« Reply #4 on: May 03, 2011, 10:55:41 PM »

One is a freshman in high school this year.

He's a great boy....but, he's never "talked" much...and now it's crucial to know what is going on...but, can't get anything out of him....other than a few grunts here and there!  ;)

...but, he's an altar server - and is very dedicated.  He would get upset if I went to church on Sunday, and didn't come to pick him up on the way.

Gosh....how lucky am I. 

Thanks for reminding me Trevor, of how blessed I am....with four wonderful godkids!  They give my life meaning.  :) 

Please help me, by praying for them, as well!

Now Trevor, my pseudo-godson....isn't it your bedtime?
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Re: God-family
« Reply #5 on: May 03, 2011, 10:58:01 PM »

One is a freshman in high school this year.

He's a great boy....but, he's never "talked" much...and now it's crucial to know what is going on...but, can't get anything out of him....other than a few grunts here and there!  ;)

...but, he's an altar server - and is very dedicated.  He would get upset if I went to church on Sunday, and didn't come to pick him up on the way.

Gosh....how lucky am I. 

Thanks for reminding me Trevor, of how blessed I am....with four wonderful godkids!  They give my life meaning.  :) 

Please help me, by praying for them, as well!

Now Trevor, my pseudo-godson....isn't it your bedtime?

:D my bedtime is 10:30, thank you very much.  (it's 9 where I am).  just be glad that he's not telling strangers details of his life on a fprum online!   ;D

if you will please respond or PM me with their first names, I can add them to my weekly prayer card.

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Re: God-family
« Reply #6 on: May 03, 2011, 11:13:12 PM »

My godchildren are:  Andrew, Michael, Alexandra and Elizabeth.

If I had a chance to handpick 4 kids...I would pick these 4.  Each is special and gifted in their own way.

Thank you, Trevor.  I appreciate the prayers!

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Re: God-family
« Reply #7 on: May 03, 2011, 11:54:16 PM »
My godfather and his extended family has taken me in almost like one of their own. So I would say yes. I'm proud to have god-grandparents, god-uncles and god-aunts, and a bunch of wonderful god-cousins. :D They truly are a second family to me.
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Re: God-family
« Reply #8 on: May 04, 2011, 12:10:42 AM »
I just chimed in to say that I love this thread!  :D I can't wait to find out who my godparents will be...you sound like you have great, genuine relationships with them, and Liza, you sound like a great godmama to those children!  :)
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Re: God-family
« Reply #9 on: May 04, 2011, 12:14:46 AM »
I don't have any godparents :(  but one of the ladies in the church I attend has a godson and at first I thought she was his aunt because of how she was holding him (hard to describe: holding/rubbing/hugging - I don't know, very motherly like) during church.

Later I went and asked her if she was his mother (they didn't look like eachother so I didn't know what else to ask?) and she said "No, he is my godson."

My brother in law also has a godfather who is maybe 8 or 9 years older than him. Strange indeed!

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Re: God-family
« Reply #10 on: May 04, 2011, 01:16:38 AM »
I don't have any godparents :(  but one of the ladies in the church I attend has a godson and at first I thought she was his aunt because of how she was holding him (hard to describe: holding/rubbing/hugging - I don't know, very motherly like) during church.

Later I went and asked her if she was his mother (they didn't look like eachother so I didn't know what else to ask?) and she said "No, he is my godson."

My brother in law also has a godfather who is maybe 8 or 9 years older than him. Strange indeed!

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really?  interesting.  are you an Orthodox Christian, or on the cusp of converting?

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Re: God-family
« Reply #11 on: May 04, 2011, 01:30:13 AM »
I envy some of you. My wife had a good relationship with her Godmother, though she actually had a closer relationship with her "adoptive Godfather". I, on the other hand, having moved a number of times, haven't seen or talked to my Godparent in over 8 years.  :-\ Also, regarding the Godparents of my two daughters, while we are all still on friendly terms, we don't really keep in contact as much as some have described. I suppose if I was more sociable I would reach out to them...
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Re: God-family
« Reply #12 on: May 04, 2011, 08:33:43 AM »
I envy some of you. My wife had a good relationship with her Godmother, though she actually had a closer relationship with her "adoptive Godfather". I, on the other hand, having moved a number of times, haven't seen or talked to my Godparent in over 8 years.  :-\ Also, regarding the Godparents of my two daughters, while we are all still on friendly terms, we don't really keep in contact as much as some have described. I suppose if I was more sociable I would reach out to them...

I'm sure it's a different situation when you see your godparents on a weekly basis at Church. 

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Re: God-family
« Reply #13 on: May 04, 2011, 08:40:54 AM »
i didn't have official God-parents, but my unofficial ones are great! i have a whole God-family and their 'family friends' are mine too.
they used to say 'just call us mum and dad' so i guess that makes them God-parents.

so for all who don't have any, go and get some!
but remember the warning about nor marrying family members when you choose them! thank God i am already married  :)

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Re: God-family
« Reply #14 on: May 04, 2011, 12:30:49 PM »
I don't have any godparents :(  but one of the ladies in the church I attend has a godson and at first I thought she was his aunt because of how she was holding him (hard to describe: holding/rubbing/hugging - I don't know, very motherly like) during church.

Later I went and asked her if she was his mother (they didn't look like eachother so I didn't know what else to ask?) and she said "No, he is my godson."

My brother in law also has a godfather who is maybe 8 or 9 years older than him. Strange indeed!

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really?  interesting.  are you an Orthodox Christian, or on the cusp of converting?


I am not Orthodox but I am leaning in that direction. My brother in law is Orthodox.

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« Reply #15 on: May 04, 2011, 05:50:51 PM »
I was talking with a Greek Orthodox guy today who called his brother's godparent's daughter his godsister.
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« Reply #16 on: December 13, 2012, 01:49:30 PM »
My family and I are very blessed, our Godparents are our parish's priest and his wife. They are great and show genuine care and love for my children, as well as the other children in church. Ever before getting Chrismated, they have always guided us with patience and humbleness.

I'm also part of a group on Facebook where Orthodox women who use head covering chat and pray for each other; those ladies are great, God bless them. They're my sisters in Jesus and have guided me through my process of becoming an EO.
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Re: God-family
« Reply #17 on: December 13, 2012, 02:04:18 PM »
I just chimed in to say that I love this thread!  :D I can't wait to find out who my godparents will be...you sound like you have great, genuine relationships with them, and Liza, you sound like a great godmama to those children!  :)
Izmi- it's all in what you make of it. I have noticed that if you R generally an introvert and don't put yourself out there, calling them, keeping in touch, praying for them regularly and so forth, just like any relationship, it needs cultivation.

I love my Godparents. One has decided to keep in close contact, the other has drifted although I know she prays for me. My Godfather has become a lifelong friend and a great source of spiritual guidance. He is more of a father to me than my own by blood.
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Re: God-family
« Reply #18 on: December 13, 2012, 02:08:23 PM »
In the Serbian Jurisdiction your Godparents are called "Kum ______" or "Kuma ______" and their children would be addressed by the same title (or kumice). It works in other ways too:

My priest is the Godfather of a boy named Jovan. Father calls Jovan's brother "Kum Alex" and could address Jovan's parents as Kum _____ and Kuma ______. I don't know if his sons could/would call Jovan and Alex Kum.

Kum also means best man. I was the Kum for my best friend David. We're sort of related now, and the best way to translate that I think is godbrother, so I've used that title for him before.

People don't bat an eye when calling people "godbrother" or "godsister" in my experience.

(I should add, in Serbia the Kum relationship isn't held to be as important generally, from what I've heard. In America it can be very important.)
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Re: God-family
« Reply #19 on: December 13, 2012, 02:10:51 PM »
I don't have any godparents :(  but one of the ladies in the church I attend has a godson and at first I thought she was his aunt because of how she was holding him (hard to describe: holding/rubbing/hugging - I don't know, very motherly like) during church.

Later I went and asked her if she was his mother (they didn't look like eachother so I didn't know what else to ask?) and she said "No, he is my godson."

My brother in law also has a godfather who is maybe 8 or 9 years older than him. Strange indeed!

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really?  interesting.  are you an Orthodox Christian, or on the cusp of converting?


I am not Orthodox but I am leaning in that direction. My brother in law is Orthodox.
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