I think, in this case, it may have been overly cautious. I would like to believe that most people are able, with the reason God has given them, to work things out as best fits them. We try to avoid extremes. It is extreme to never consult your priest about anything you have a question about, or to think that you are always right, particularly about things involving spiritual life. It is another extreme, however, to have someone decide everything for you (that is extreme even in monasticism). We have, on one hand, personal delusion, and on the other, guruism. Both are highly dangerous spiritually. But I think that there is a third extreme, that of strangers being overly cautious with warnings to other strangers of dire spiritual harm if they follow after the two previous extremes. I hope this makes sense. Forgive me if I have offended, I certainly do not mean to accuse anyone of anything. I have just found that, more often than not, reason and moderation, combined with a normal relationship with a spiritual father is the path of most peace. There is no need to warn a man of drowning in the sea when you meet him on an inland highway.