This is just too "fresh" in my mind.
All throughout Great Lent we had Divine Liturgy Saturday mornings. Saturday morning, our school holds classes - Ukrainian language, reading, writing, and Orthodox religion. Since I am the one who teaches religion, I would take each one of my classes, in turn, to the church where the kids would light a candle and say a prayer before returning to class.
My little kids class, just happened to walk in just in time for Communion. I know which kids are baptized Orthodox, and which aren't. There were a couple I didn't know what they were, so, I put them off to the side with the non-Orthodox children. The little 6 year old Orthodox kids got to go up for Holy Communion. This was before lunch, so, they hadn't eaten - in case anyone was wondering....and we did say our prayers.
Back in class, the girl that I wasn't sure of expressed that she had wanted to come up. I asked if she knew whether she were Orthodox or Catholic (we have a few atheists...but, I know her family isn't one of them.) She said her mom is Orthodox, dad Catholic, but, she didn't know what she was. I told her to ask her mom and if mom says it's okay...then okay.
Next day was Palm Sunday, and all the school kids were present to sing the Lord's Prayer. I see this little girl get in line for Communion. I look at her and she assures me mom said it was okay. Fine.
Later at the kitchen window I bump in to her mom, and apologize for keeping her from Communion on Saturday. Mom replies "...it's okay with me that she went today." The way she said it...just made me worry, so I pressed the subject. I asked if the little girl were baptized Orthodox....Mom replies..."My parents were Catholic, yet, they go to an Orthodox Church...We go here and there...and it doesn't really matter...both churches are Ukrainian." Och! I told her it does matter. She tells me that her church allows Orthodox to commune....and I replied that I know that, but, the Orthodox Church does not allow Catholics to commune....to which (ignoring the fact that my little nieces were standing with me) she rips in to me...and yells that her daughter isn't going to Hell, etc. I assured her that I never thought she was, nor did I say that....however, rules are rules and Communion is a privilege, not a right....and it is Orthodox, not Ukrainian....and as I saw her fuming, I took the hands of my nieces and quietly walked away. I didn't need to argue on Palm Sunday...or any other day.
This is what leads me to ask...if you are Catholic...and there's some dogma, theology, etc....that keeps you Catholic....why would you come to Communion in an Orthodox Church? If you want to Commune in an Orthodox Church, then there must be something that draws you, and if so, you should convert to Orthodoxy.
Why is it that people feel it is okay to play both sides. Once here, once there, etc. Don't they realize there are differences?
I know that our priest has had a difficult time due to the mixed marriages, and parents wanting 2 Catholic godparents for their baby, but, want them baptized Orthodox in an Orthodox Church? Huh?
For first Confession, I had a grandmother come up to me, and tell me she wished her grandkids to go to Holy First Confession on Palm Sunday with the other 5 kids we had. I told her their were 3 classes scheduled, etc. She answered..'"Oh, you can skip all the classes. They know it all, because they've already had their First Communion over "there"". Again, huh? They've had a Catholic First Communion,....and now they should come here and have an Orthodox First Confession?
It must be hard to be a priest, and, God bless my priest for not allowing these things to happen. He very politely handles each situation, while I get flustered and red...and stumble over my words..."huh? You want to do what?!?"