Hand kissing never bothered me as an Orthodox catechumen. Now, the whole thing of demanding that somebody have a "spiritual father", on the other hand, so popular among the hyperdox... IS creepy.
It's hard for me to see pre-marital sex as the end of the world, nor does it necessarily detract from having a happy marriage. But I'm not exactly cool with this idea that you "try out" a potential spouse (or two, or three). It suggests too mechanistic a view of sexuality, one that isn't even remotely healthy in the long term (what are you going to do when you get old and stuff doesn't work quite right?).