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Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« on: April 06, 2011, 08:39:24 PM »

Very public wedding proposal goes very, very badly wrong


A Chinese woman's public proposal went slightly awry when her boyfriend turned her down in front of dozens of onlookers.

After sending her boyfriend a message to come and meet her, the woman in question climbed on to the top of her car holding a bunch of roses.

On the windscreen two boards displayed the words 'Marry Me'.

However, when her boyfriend arrived his reply surprised the large crowd that had gathered - because he turned her down...
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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #1 on: April 06, 2011, 08:48:22 PM »
I always think that people who propose in public are asking for humiliation!

My husband was 100% sure that I would say yes, and he was STILL nervous. I thought he was going to propose to me at one point (he kept dropping hints, I thought) and we had a screaming match after it didn't happen. He said, "I'm going to ask you this year, but I won't tell you when. I want to make this a surprise."

He was THAT sure that I was going to say yes and he decided NOT to do it in public. He was also so nervous that I was THIS CLOSE to picking a fight because he was behaving so distantly that day and he kept leaving the restaurant to answer phone calls (of course, everyone was calling to ask him if he had proposed already).

When my uncle proposed to my aunt, I actually hid behind the couch when he proposed. There's something so scary about the possibility of rejection, never mind when an audience is watching!


ETA: Dude is an idiot. He should have said yes and told her in private to spare her! It wasn't like he didn't love her or want to marry her. Stoopid!
« Last Edit: April 06, 2011, 08:49:58 PM by IsmiLiora »
She's touring the facility/and picking up slack.
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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #2 on: April 06, 2011, 09:06:48 PM »
Wait...women can propose?
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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #3 on: April 06, 2011, 09:09:53 PM »
Wait...women can propose?

My wife did. ;D
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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #4 on: April 06, 2011, 09:12:56 PM »

Good for her!

Were you surprised?
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« Reply #5 on: April 06, 2011, 09:15:50 PM »
Indeed I was. Especially since it was only 2 1/2 months into the relationship, and I lived 90 miles away from her at the time. :o I think we both knew that we fit each other well (which means that no one else would put up with us, lol). 9-10 months later we were married. :)
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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #6 on: April 06, 2011, 09:19:46 PM »
Wow...

I guess I would be like, "Baby, of course I wanna marry you.  But isn't that my cue?"
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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #7 on: April 06, 2011, 09:28:46 PM »

...it's just that you guys take too long to pop the question. 

Sometimes, when a girl knows it's right....she gotta act!

I think this is why so many couples live out of wedlock.  The woman would LOVE to marry her man, but, the man doesn't ask....and she thinks it's not her place to ask...so, she waits...and three kids later....she's still waiting....
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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #8 on: April 06, 2011, 09:30:00 PM »
I used to work at an ice skating rink and every day we'd get some idiot who thought that he was the first in the world to do that whole "pretend I can't skate, fall down, and while she's 'helping me up' pop the question".  We'd PRAY for at least one girl to say "no".  Never happened   :(
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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #9 on: April 06, 2011, 09:36:46 PM »
I used to work at an ice skating rink and every day we'd get some idiot who thought that he was the first in the world to do that whole "pretend I can't skate, fall down, and while she's 'helping me up' pop the question".  We'd PRAY for at least one girl to say "no".  Never happened   :(

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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #10 on: April 06, 2011, 09:39:21 PM »

...it's just that you guys take too long to pop the question. 

Sometimes, when a girl knows it's right....she gotta act!

I think this is why so many couples live out of wedlock.  The woman would LOVE to marry her man, but, the man doesn't ask....and she thinks it's not her place to ask...so, she waits...and three kids later....she's still waiting....

ya well, I mean, for me personally and to each his own...not against anyone here, but 2 and a half months for me isn't enough. 

But in the vicinity of a year, maybe, I guess one is ready to say, "Ya, you're definitely the one I want to spend eternity with."
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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #11 on: April 06, 2011, 09:41:58 PM »

...it's just that you guys take too long to pop the question. 

Sometimes, when a girl knows it's right....she gotta act!

I suspect this is happening more and more nowadays. Before I proposed to the woman I eventually married, I had received two marriage proposals, which were turned down, of course. Both were done in private, which is the ONLY way to do so since the other person may also need to do some thinking and may not need or want any distractions.

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I used to work at an ice skating rink and every day we'd get some idiot who thought that he was the first in the world to do that whole "pretend I can't skate, fall down, and while she's 'helping me up' pop the question".

Yeesh! How cheesy!
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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #12 on: April 06, 2011, 09:45:01 PM »
Wait...women can propose?

No..but they can open up your calendar book and point to the day before their Birthday and tell you that's your deadline.
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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #13 on: April 06, 2011, 09:47:23 PM »

...it's just that you guys take too long to pop the question. 

Sometimes, when a girl knows it's right....she gotta act!

I think this is why so many couples live out of wedlock.  The woman would LOVE to marry her man, but, the man doesn't ask....and she thinks it's not her place to ask...so, she waits...and three kids later....she's still waiting....

ya well, I mean, for me personally and to each his own...not against anyone here, but 2 and a half months for me isn't enough. 

But in the vicinity of a year, maybe, I guess one is ready to say, "Ya, you're definitely the one I want to spend eternity with."

One of the best episodes of Curb dealt with the bolded remark when Larry and Cheryl were going to renew their vows and Cheryl wanted an "throughout eternity" clause put in instead of "till death do we part".

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Re: Weddings Proposals Should Always Be Done In Private
« Reply #14 on: April 06, 2011, 09:49:21 PM »
Wait...women can propose?

No..but they can open up your calendar book and point to the day before their Birthday and tell you that's your deadline.

ROFL!!!!
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