I'm pregnant with my second daughter. My husband and I are currently Roman Catholics. I have been considering conversion for a long while and my husband supports me in so far as I find a church where I am being "spiritually fed". He himself, I would say, is a traditional Catholic, though does not squarely identify as a "trad" and all that implies. We are both for traditional, liturgical Christianity, period. My first born daughter is 18 months old currently and was baptized into the Catholic Church. We are relatively new to the area we are in and just starting to settle in to church communities. We spent many months going to different places and have both found communities we want to try and become involved in. I have found an Orthodox church near by that I have decided I want to try and commit to going to Vespers and Divine Liturgy every weekend. My husband has accompanied me once to Vespers here and says he would go with me in the future to Vespers or Divine Liturgy as long as he doesn't have any prior commitments elsewhere.
This is all well and good... except for the problem of our daughters. It is unfortunate that I will have to spend most of my time on Sundays chasing after my 18 month old and not really having much of an opportunity to pay close attention to the liturgy. But, if it is what I need to do until she is old enough to sit still, then so be it. My husband has offered to take her with him sometimes to his church so I can have a break. However, that probably won't last because he is becoming involved with the choir, and other things there, and probably won't be able to watch her at all now that I think about. The more pressing issue really, is what to do about our new baby.
I have made it clear that if I convert to Orthodoxy, our children will also be Orthodox. I feel very strongly about this. The bigger issue here is what to do about baptizing our second daughter who will be born at the end of April (so, about 10 weeks from now). I feel very strongly hesitant to have her baptized in the Roman Catholic Church. I have told me husband all of my doubts and he told me that so long as she is baptized in an apostolic church using the correct formula that it is okay. I suspect this is because Catholics believe Orthodox have "valid" sacraments. I intend to talk more with the priest at my local Orthodox church about conversion in general, but it seems unlikely that I will be able to have the new baby baptized so soon without having a more involved participation in this church.
The priest and I had a great conversation the first time I attended Vespers and I felt like I really connected with him and was being heard. This is huge for me, I haven't had much luck in finding a place where I feel like I am understood and can grow. That being said, he was quite insistent on meeting my husband and being very clear with him about this whole process. He told me that he wouldn't not make me Orthodox, but that my husband has to on board with it. He also said that conversion is not an overnight process (though conceded from what I was telling him that I had indeed given the issue considerable thought so he was willing to take my inquiries more seriously) and that the most important thing to come to as many church services as possible and get involved in the church life and community. I totally agree with this as well. It has been hard though, because I have promised to accompany my husband to many of his church events, and having a toddler makes it doubly difficult for me to go to church or other services on my own if he is busy doing something else and can't watch her.
All this being said, it doesn't seem likely that my new baby can be baptized before me. I can't in good conscience have her just baptized anywhere in the mean time, especially because I don't think the Roman church is the true Church of Christ anymore. I also don't expect the Orthodox priest to advise that either considering the Orthodox position on sacramental theology is quite different than the Roman Catholic view.
I wanted to post my situation here to see if any other converts were ever in a similar situation of having a divided family, and what your personal opinions are when dealing with a spouse and