Well, I mean the life of an average parish in the Orthodox world does not stand up to what you might have read in Frederica's books that probably led you to the "True Church"
Real world is as it is.
It's just that if you pay handsomely more solemnity will be added to the celebration. Otherwise they'll be done on the "fast-track" mode. But even this varies from priest to priest etc. Speaking both as a chanter and as a priest's wife, that disgusts me. Just sayin'...
The real world is more complicated than your homogeneous "old country" romanticism.
What is it with you and MATUSHKA Frederica, anyway? What'd she ever do to you?
This goes back to a question which remained unanswered here before:
Is it policy to use a title when referring to the wife of a Priest?
If so which do you use? I have seen Frederica Matthews-Green(?) referred in the Russian, Greek, etc. traditions.
That's a good question. Maybe a mod can answer for us?
Or anyone. I've asked it a couple times before. Heck, I am never sure how hard to keep the rule in "RL".
Not to derail the thread (not that it was particularly productive anyway...), but the real life question is kind of a difficult one, actually. Some presvyteres prefer to be called presvytera (or whichever term is in the proper language for them), some prefer not to be. I try to listen to how they introduce themselves.
For me personally, I've been a priest's wife now for several years and it's still an akward and difficult subject just because I feel so unworthy of a term that makes reference to God (more on that below). I introduce myself to people as "Presvytera Mari" and within the parish I do wish to be called "Presvytera" simply because it is what my husband, my spiritual father, my hierarch, and the Church expect. The Church has decided that it is important for priests' wives to be called by such a term because it defers to her husband's priesthood and thus ultimately to God.
Now honestly, most of the people in our parish do not call me Presvytera. The reason, so I'm told, is because I am young. Their idea of a Presvytera is one much older than I, and they always say "that's a term for older women," and then we have to have a conversation... But the majority of the time I don't correct people or say anything about it because I don't want people to think that I expect some sort of title or place of honor. I don't feel that way at all. I only accept the term because of the reference it makes to my husband and to God. I only accept the term because it has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with me.
Just my $.02. Honestly, I would REALLY love to hear what Fr. George and Serb1389 have to say on the subject (maybe we should start a new thread?).