From what I experience - without the temptation, I get weak, with the temptation, I fall, but I get up and each time I get up I get a little stronger. I've also found that as soon as I get one temptation beat, another one fills it's place very quickly. . .'cause this is a war, after all. I'll fight until the day I die, I'm sure. Sometimes I get tired and I ask for others to pray for me, that helps a LOT. Sometimes the battle is more than I have faith for - and I ask others to pray for me. . .and that helps a LOT. As they say, we're saved together but damned alone. I find the more alone I am - the harder the struggle and the less likely I will survive it even if I pull from the source. (Heh. ..the planet. . .itself. . .and even then, where ever I go. ..there I am. . .can't get away from ME.)
So, no, I would encourage you to not give up the sources, but learn how to overcome.
I'm inclined to think that if she cannot love you without the physical attachment right now, then she is not offering true love. What if you could not physically be there in a sexual way? What then? Would she leave for someone else? This happens to paraplegics and quadriplegics all the time. Sigh. I'm sorry to find out in this way, but a temper tantrum (silent treatment) over something so small in a relationship compared to the depth of the relationship over a life time is . . . very self-centered.
Is she a believer?
So. ..long story short, yes, I think you're having an extreme reaction - understandably so.