Greetings in that Divine and Most Precious Name of Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!
I'm sorry y'all, but there is way to much Orthodox pontificating on this thread, we should pray for humility. Unless anyone us actually live with Trevor, or attend his church or are part of is direct social-support system, or he attends any of our own Orthodox parishes, we should really be respectful of those who are. Again, as a youth minister, we can NEVER tell kids to go directly against the wishes of their parents and families, and further, it is dangerous to promote division in families or ideological purity. Let us have our polemics and schism arguments in separation from our compassionate reasoning and mentoring of our youth. I nor anyone else ever suggested that Trevor stay away from Orthodox, but when any of you suggest he should just run away from his family, from his upbringing, from his spiritual family, from his cultural, in the name of our own idealogies, well that is just plain selfish, naive, and even prideful. We can all help, guide, and pray for and with Trevor as he becomes a young man in Orthodox, but we can not be so silly as to believe our internet friendships can supercede his real life social support system and family. In this regard, we should all really mind our business.
Trevor is too young to fight our own purist battles, this is not 451 or 1054 or 1446 or any of those battlefields, this is the real world, so lets live in it people. Let the young man pick his way, and let us support him and his family in all things, and let God do His own works which He intend from the Beginning. We must be sources of inspiration, of support, of moral guidance, and mentoring, but not divisive, vitriolic, self-serving chatter and gossip.
Lisa, if you were his direct youth minister at his local parish, then I support what you are saying, and would pray for and encourage your efforts, but if you are just like me, a mentor and internet friend, perhaps you are crossing the line a bit in your suggestions. No matter how close you may be to Trevor, unless you are actually there in his real, day to day life, and directly involved within his social support system, then you should be a bit more careful. This is not to disrespect you at all, but seriously, some of your suggestions are rather counter-productive and even dangerous, and they make me
cringe a but as well. I will continue to pray for this matter, and in reality, the best thing and the only truly Orthodox thing we can ever advice this young brother to do is to (AND IN THIS EXACT ORDER)
a) always talk to God in prayer first and foremost
b) always talk with his parents (even as an adult, they are still our parents you know)
c) always talk with his own
personal priests and father-confessors (which in this case would include both RC and Orthodox)
d) always talk with his personal mentors and support system of family, friends, and usOh yeah and Trevor, much love and respect to you my young brother, being a convert to Orthodox as a young man is hard, I have been exactly where you are. Navigating your way into Orthodox is hard enough, let alone on your own and at times contrary to your family and friends, so I say take it in balance. Go with God on this way, I have seen that He has been with you thus far, and will continue with you in the future I am quite sure